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Kind of surprised no one has mentioned it... But kids. Kids bring a lot of happiness.
It depends.
For a lot of adults, I would agree that they are a bright point in their lives. But it isn't universal.
Yep, just like how every single other answer in this thread isn't universal.
Yep, they're stressful too -- but it's usually the good kind of stress (exhaustion) and not the bad one (uncertainty). Although that pivots once they hit their teens.
Ehh, they have knock-on uncertainties. Especially if you are financially hurting.
They bring happiness, and a lot of other things too.
Kids can also completely ruin marriages. I know multiple people who have straight up told me "my marriage used to be great and then having kids ruined it." Of course kids can also bring tons of happiness! But it's not universal.
I guess that's one perspective. Another one might be that their marriage wasn't as great as they thought it was in the first place.
Kids are stressful, no argument there. But blaming kids because their marriage buckled under the added stress just feels like an easy excuse. I suspect there were deeper issues that those people weren't particularly interested in exploring.
Yea that's definitely possible. I completely agree. But some people just have like a stress cap, ya know? It can put you over. There are definitely multiple reasons why it could happen.
Basically everyone I've talked to in my age range that has kids basically has Stockholm syndrome, but I guess there are also enough people that do intrinsically enjoy having kids.