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[โ€“] [email protected] 26 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Honestly? Kinda lonely. I'll be 40 in a few months. I'm a woman, if the perspective matters .

I was engaged to the man I thought I'd marry and have kids with, but it didn't turn out to be the case, and although I learned how to choose better and what to look out for, I also wonder if I'm ever going to get to have a family of my own. It's been 6 years now since that fell apart, and I had to do a lot in that time to get back onto my feet, but the few relationships I've had since then are fleeting. Men seem afraid of commitment now, and it's hard not to completely fall to the idea that I'm just too old, which is what society is consistently screaming at me.

I don't feel old.

I am tired of searching though. At some point I will get to where I'm too old and that makes me sad to think about.

[โ€“] [email protected] 13 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

At some point we're too old to have biological children, yes, but my 72 year old father has been in a new relationship for about a year and they seem super happy together.

(Edited for clarity.)

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

40 isn't too old for kids. Plenty of people have kids at that age and they're doing just fine.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

It's just more difficult when you're older.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Yes, that's true, but at that age you're financially more stable and have more patience than a 20y. We had our kids at about 30 and I think that's probably the best age for it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 3 weeks ago

Yeah I had my kids at 30 also. Definitely agree