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A sorcerer appears and states that they will erase any one song from existence - which song would you choose? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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This ability of the sorcerer will wipe any one song of your choosing from the pages of history, as if it never existed! Gone from our reality. They were going to do it anyway, but they're making you choose.

Which song would you pick?

(If you really can't narrow it down to one, then try narrowing to three)

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I was under the impression that this is a misconception about the songs meaning.

At the time women would be expected to say no outright and go home. To say they have to leave, instead of having autonomy and being promiscuous.

So in the song the woman wants to stay but is following the societal expectation to say they need to leave and the man is giving her all the excuses she could use to explain why she didnt leave, so people wouldnt suspect her of staying over to have sex.

These days that expectation is not there so the song is interpreted in a different way and sounds super rapey.

To be clear. I am not advocating for this old way of thinking, nor am i saying i know the explanation i have given is true. I am only telling what i have heard and felt like to me that actually makes a lot of sense in the right context.

Basically, women wanted to be able to have sex with anyone they wanted, but people would look down on them for doing it. So, to avoid being ostracised, they would avoid situations like that.

But again. I may be wrong. I have just heard this explanation and wanted to share.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It was also written to be performed at the end of a party when they were telling the guests they didn't have to go home but they couldn't stay there

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

this song is a perfect example of tone deafness where a person doesn’t take a few steps back to reread how their lyrics land in pretty much most scenarios it is going to be received . Particularly in situations at the time for gender and how consent was pretty much frowned upon as a form of slut shaming or that men don’t have to take ‘no’ as an answer.