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Online dating industry in crisis as shares fall and nearly half of all users report negative experiences on the apps

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

yeah, maybe we need more broad relationships status capabilities in general.

While I wish that were possible, I can't think of a great way to ensure that. Best I can think of is ensuring that they aren't married and/or lying about having children. (At one time you could have used Facebook statuses as a stand-in for that, but I don't think that's accurate anymore.)

a pretty good functional alternative is just killing the message chain entirely. Platform account blocking maybe?

What I'm thinking is that you will need a set of clear guidelines so that you can remove people from the platform entirely if they exhibit a pattern of misconduct. One, maybe two instances where someone violates guidelines, okay, blocking them from contact with that specific person is sufficient, as long as they know exactly what conduct was out of bounds and learn from it. But multiple instances of harassing behaviour means that someone needs to be pruned from the system. I'm on the fence as to whether it should be a permaban kind of thing, or whether it should be graduated time-outs (a week ban, a month ban, three month ban, a year ban, etc.), with red flag warnings for harassment in their profile. I could go either way right now.

Regardless, you'd need a general block feature, so that you could block people that you found distasteful, but weren't engaging in overtly harassing behaviour.

yeah anything with VC money in it from the get go is going to be a heaping pile of shit once > 50% market share is achieved.

I think you could shorten that to "anything with VC money in it is going to be a heaping pile of shit". As long as there's a profit motive, there's no way to avoid it. But I'm not sure how you could possibly make it work without VC-type money.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

While I wish that were possible, I can’t think of a great way to ensure that. Best I can think of is ensuring that they aren’t married and/or lying about having children. (At one time you could have used Facebook statuses as a stand-in for that, but I don’t think that’s accurate anymore.)

yeah, thats why i kinda just don't care about it. There's not much you can do outside of being passively aware.

What I’m thinking is that you will need a set of clear guidelines so that you can remove people from the platform entirely if they exhibit a pattern of misconduct. One, maybe two instances where someone violates guidelines, okay, blocking them from contact with that specific person is sufficient, as long as they know exactly what conduct was out of bounds and learn from it. But multiple instances of harassing behaviour means that someone needs to be pruned from the system. I’m on the fence as to whether it should be a permaban kind of thing, or whether it should be graduated time-outs (a week ban, a month ban, three month ban, a year ban, etc.), with red flag warnings for harassment in their profile. I could go either way right now.

absolutely, but i consider that to be an external moderation thing, site TOS type of deal. Rather than an individual level communication problem. So i wasn't really thinking about that problem in that part.

I think you could shorten that to “anything with VC money in it is going to be a heaping pile of shit”. As long as there’s a profit motive, there’s no way to avoid it. But I’m not sure how you could possibly make it work without VC-type money.

ok so it's kinda weird, but generally VC funding either impregnates new startups with promising futures, or it funds into existing and productive applications, like discord for example. Or patreon. The entire point is to make a good application or piece of software that works while, and in the mean time, burning as much money as you can to make it "work" with the expectation that you enshittify it later, and then WRING the hell out of it for all that money you initially invested, as the majority of the userbase is now stuck into the platform, which is the exact business model of discord lol. Generally you can make it work well and properly from the get go, it's later that it gets worse.

As for a dating platform, like i said, i think moving away from the concept of a dating platform is a good idea, push to use local community groups, or meetup places instead. Decentralized and moderated by the people that actually use it. Providing a much more tailored experience.