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[–] [email protected] 86 points 4 months ago (6 children)

Sounds a lot like alcoholism.

[–] [email protected] 38 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Could just like beer, you know

[–] [email protected] 19 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Supreme Court candidate material

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I don't get the reference. Do they like beer?

[–] [email protected] 18 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

When Justice Kavanaugh had his senate hearing before he was confirmed for the Supreme Court and he was accused of being a frat boy rapist he defended himself by going on about how much he likes beer. One senator asked him if he ever drank so much he didn't remember what happened and he replied with "HAVE YOU?!!!"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F0SwwyqhJMs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IHBvOImIZNU

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

I can't fault him for liking beer. It is damn good. The other shit though...

[–] Zipitydew 3 points 4 months ago

Justice Boof loves beer.

[–] CaptainEffort 20 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Maybe, but this is pretty common. Getting a drink to celebrate a good day, vs getting a drink after a bad day because you deserve it.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Nah if you can drink one beer and be done you're not an alcoholic.

If you're getting shitfaced every night that's a different story.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

If you need to have a beer every night that sounds a lot like dependency.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Yeah but those are different things.

An alcoholic isn't gonna stop at just one.

And coming from an alcoholic I'd definitely prefer just drinking one per night.

Both are bad but one of them isn't gonna threaten your livelihood/life/personal relationships as much as the other.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago

EVERY alcoholic starts out stopping at one or two. I started out just having 1-2 after work.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago (2 children)

For me it's not so much that I want alcohol as it is I want to not be stressed out. Alcohol facilitates that. I can de-stress without it but I rarely have the time I would need to do after a workday. Having a beer/drink when I get home gets the ball rolling so I can enjoy things again rather than just sit around with fried nerves.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I'm an alcoholic and reading your replies you are definitely one too. "I can take it or leave it" is such an addict thing to say. Also drinking doesn't help with stress, it just kicks the can down the road making it harder to deal with in the future

[–] [email protected] -1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Don't project your problems onto me. Its one drink when I'm on edge after work and it does help with stress, it takes the edge off enough that I can do things that I enjoy which reduces my stress.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago (2 children)

If my reddit account still existed I could point you to posts written by me 10 years ago identical to the things you are saying

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I've been doing this longer than 10 years and it hasn't escalated. I actually drink much less now than I used to because I'm not going out partying all the time anymore.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I was drinking like that for almost 20 years and one day I started drinking daily and I've never had it under control since

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago

Sorry you're having problems. I'm not. I don't even like being drunk or the consequences the next day. As I've said numerous times in this thread it's not about the alcohol it's just the only thing that works quick enough to be effective. I've tried other methods to destress and while some of them work they weren't effective enough to get the job done in the 1-2 hours of free time I have on a week night. It's either have a drink or stare at the wall waiting to go to bed because everything I try to do just makes it worse. I'm certainly open to healthier solutions but so far no one has had anything to offer me besides judgement for doing the one thing that works.

To be clear this isn't a daily occurance it's just when I have high stress days at work.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago

Its insidious how the progression goes. Im in the same boat. Recovering alcoholic, 18mo sober, AA meetings. I too was deeply insistent tgat my drinking was normal, controlled, and healthy, right up until it almost killed me

[–] [email protected] -2 points 4 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 13 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Um, no. Problematic use of alcohol, perhaps - "alcoholism" implies addiction, impact on relationships and rest of life etc, which is not implied in the previous comment. A lot of people use a beer or two to deflate after work or stress without it necessarily being a problem. You have to look at the whole picture.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I disagree. I don't need that drink, it's just helpful because I don't have unlimited free time to do breathing exercises or run or whatever other stress management would otherwise work. I have maybe 1-1.5 hours after I get done with everything else I need to do to try and watch a show or play a game or something else that's fun and if I'm still stressed from work I can't enjoy those things. If I have to use other methods to calm myself first I won't have enough time to actually do the fun thing.

I rarely drink on weekends unless it's socially. It doesn't even occur to me to do so.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

I was in this picture. One or two, maybe even three tall ones every evening, for years. And then I discovered untappd and drinking became gamified. A beer while watching TV can't be alcoholism, right?

For a while I'd been noticing things like a lack of energy and interest, bad sleep, being irritable and impulsive, and bad memory. After a while I had to take magnesium and other supplements. I just considered it all side effects of aging.

Now I've switched to alcohol free beer since about 2 months and every day I'm surprised how much better the QOL already is. I feel fully rested, feel more confident at work, can remember stuff my kids talk about. For lack of a word, I feel more present.

And that experience completely changed my opinion about drinking alcohol regularly.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

There's always a choice not to drink.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago

i rarely choose not to drink, but i often forget to drink.