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If you have to start a sentence with "I don't want to be racist but..." That's probably a thought you should keep to yourself if you don't want people to think you're racist
I can't say I care that much I just was hoping to point to it as a something wrong with her face, so abliest over racist I guess but that doesn't sound good iether
What about that picture indicates she's disabled? Why say something that is solely to point out some random persons perceived flaws? How did you think anything you've written in these comments was pertinent/contributed to anything? The fact that you thought you were being either racist or ableist with your comments and decided to post them anyway is mind boggling
Look I don't think a was being racist I was just trying to cover my bases because I've been told I'm terrible at not just thinking everyone I see is white, you know unless it's super obvious
I only really felt comfortable saying what I said because I was like 99 percent sure she wasn't from some group where that would be a slur against her, the ableist thing was me assuming that look based stuff would be covered under that
Maybe the better thing to concentrate on is why you felt like that comment was necessary. You didn't seem to have a goal behind it, other than drawing more attention. It's really not relevant to the discussion or the post. So why post it? It felt like your intention was just to talk shit about a random person, and maybe you should think about that.
uh sure I just have never seen something like that before like I had to check both sides of the image to make sure her face wasn't edited too
We get it: she's not your type. She is out having fun with her boyfriend having a drink. Honestly, your language just seems like mean juvenile bullying shit.
She, or people she knows, may end up reading your bullying post.
Honestly, did you really hope to learn something from your comment or gain a perspective? No, of course it's fucking bullying.
How does her ethnic background or facial characteristics (as shown in a single photo while she's out with her boyfriend at a cocktail place) relate to the funny part of the tweet? Can't it just be a funny tweet?
I never thought I was bullying, I didn't think I said anything that would be offensive in person or make her day worse
Bullies often don't realise what they're doing is bullying. It was just a bit of bants, you shouldn't be so sensitive about it.
is "bants" a regional or generational thing?
Regional
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Bants
huh I wasn't far off I would have guessed aussie as a regional option because so much of their slang I hear is just "abbreviations" even if it doesn't make the word or syllables shorter
You are very oblivious then and don't realize it.
I don't want to hide behind ignorance but ya I'm really not that good at making jokes most of the times but I don't think I've ever made anyone upper with them
That's cool. This sub\community is very lighthearted. It is also very international. Cool tip: if you happen to catch yourself on a word or phrase that wasn't inert\commonplace\or a opps-i-didn't-know-it-was-even-a-thing... I myself just take the hit, put that in my to-do box, and move on. I have plenty other funny bones to contribute.
In a nutshell that's the internet-- no one asks you to hide or change yourself, but flamewar can happen like a diesel truck thru a nitroglycerin factory.