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Men with 'toxic masculinity' are more likely to make sexual advances without consent, study finds (phys.org)

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A team of researchers, including Binghamton psychology professor Richard Mattson and graduate student Michael Shaw asked men between the ages of 18–25 to respond to hypothetical sexual hookup situations in which a woman responds passively to a sexual advance, meaning the woman does not express any overt verbal or behavioral response to indicate consent to increase the level of physical intimacy. The team then surveyed how consensual each man perceived the situation to be, as well as how he would likely behave.

The work is published in the journal Sex Roles.

"A passive response to a sexual advance is a normative indicator of consent, but also might reflect distress or fear, and whether men are able to differentiate between the two during a hookup was important to explore," said Mattson.

The team found that men varied in their perception of passive responses in terms of consent and that the level of perceived consent was strongly linked to an increased likelihood of continuing or advancing sexual behavior.

"The biggest takeaway is that men differed in how they interpreted an ambiguous female response to their sexual advances with respect to their perception of consent, which in turn influenced their sexual decisions," said Mattson.

"But certain types of men (e.g., those high in toxic masculine traits) tended to view situations as more consensual and reported that they would escalate the level of sexual intimacy regardless of whether or not they thought it was consensual."

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[–] [email protected] -5 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

same. the real world is very different than the world of internet words.

i have never ever met a woman who wanted 'consent' in my 30+ years of dating. and plenty of them told me they are turned off, and many said they find non-consent, aggression, and boundary violation 'sexy'. i have never met a 'sex positive' woman who wanted to talk about boundaries and consent for any sex act, including kinky violent bdsm stuff. they always told me 'just do what you want, i trust you, talking about this stuff is gross i just want to do it'.

but nobody wants to talk about that because it violates their kindergarten level ideals of human behaviour. truth is a lot of people get off on non-consent and idealize it. men and women both.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Just want to say I'm sorry your potential partners are turned off by consent seeking. I definitely wouldn't be with my partners if they didn't find consent sexy.

I can promise you that the actual bdsm community cares a great deal about consent. Negotiating is a critical skill in that context, especially if engaging in stuff that might look nonconsensual. If you like your sex kinky and consensual you might seek out your local kink scene.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

No. I am not interested in joining sex cultists who think they are 'know the truth path'. Thanks.

you guys need to chill and stop recruiting.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Not sure where you think I claim to know the true path. I can assure you I don't, even just in my relationships. I was mentioning an option, if you wanted something, that seemed relevant based on your words. I'm confused how discussing folks who have a different view of consent make them cultists.

But the thing about consent being key is that you're more than welcome to reach your own conclusions. You do you.