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Getting Over a Breakup (midwest.social)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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How have you successfully gotten over a breakup? I did not end the relationship and it was the most significant of my life. I feel confused and trying to understand why. I'm not sleeping well and my anxiety has decided to resurface. I'm ruminating. I don't have many people to go to about this. Please don't say I will find someone else, because I can't go there right now. And I know it won't happen anyway.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

You’re going to have to accept that it’ll hurt for a long time. Give yourself some grace and let yourself be heartbroken for as long as you need. It sucks, but you’ll snap out of it eventually.

Two things that will probably help:

Hang out with people you like
Do things that make you proud of what you did that day

It’s easy to skip into a hole and wallow there. While you have to let yourself grieve, you also have to put in the work to have a constructive life. Treat it as a responsibility to get up and do something each day.