Get Motivated!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/ShajKar on 2024-01-18 09:33:33+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/MessagesFromLife on 2024-01-18 06:01:05+00:00.

A Message from Life to You

Howdy,

I was just swinging by to remind you.

You're needed; otherwise, you would not be here.

You're a vital note in the grand symphony of existence.

No one else can play your note.

The melody of life would not sound the same without you.

What are you waiting for?

Let's get out there and make some beautiful music together!

Sending you lots of love,

The Conductor

P.S. Oh, and between you and me, I might have given you an extra special note to play. But don't tell anyone - it's our little secret.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/jmh238 on 2024-01-18 05:32:44+00:00.

I posted recently about my journey in giving up alcohol, and the response was overwhelming

I remember, in a fit of drunken rage over an argument or disagreement I can't even remember, throwing my phone into the wall of my home and completely shattering it. It almost sobered me up (but it didn't). Waking up the next morning, the feeling of shame, embarrassment, and utter despair was overwhelming. One month later, I decided enough was enough, and gave up alcohol that was 9 months ago.

Getting sober is incredibly challenging. Just reaching the decision to stop drinking is a hurdle many cannot overcome.

For me, several things provided support and encouragement:

1. A Loving Partner: Sam was my biggest encouragement. She saw firsthand the impact alcohol was having on me, on us, and on my future. So when I told her I was looking at going cold turkey, she didn’t ask “why,” she just said, “Amazing. Let me know how I can help?” To her, this may have just been throwaway support, but for me, it signified that I was making the right choice, and that I had help literally living right beside me.
2. A Why: This is almost the most important. You must have a why, or a reason, why you are doing this. Just doing it “because” will not pull you through the dark and tough times. For me, it was putting myself 10 years in the future, looking back on my last 10 years, and being scared of what I might find. Most likely a trail of destruction and underachievement. This thought, and worry, drove me to make the decision, but also through the temptation in the early days.
3. A Short-Term Goal: You can’t do this by looking at the future. You have to just take the next step, and take that step every day. I committed to the 75 Hard challenge, which is 75 days of doing 6 tasks, one of them being drinking no alcohol. By doing this, I habit-stacked with other things (2 x workouts a day, 10 pages of reading, 3.6 litres of water, sticking to a diet), and this helped me reach pivotal milestones like 1 day, 1 week, 2 weeks, 1 month, 50 days, and then ultimately 75 days. This instilled the habit of saying no to offers of drinks, to dealing with temptation and urges, and ultimately helped push that feeling of needing a drink right down.
4. Document Your Process: This also goes hand in hand with exercise. When you give up alcohol, and then couple it with daily exercise, you will be blown away by how you look and feel. You will lose weight, your skin will improve, your mood will improve, and you will start to be creative in ways you never thought you could be. You will start to have deeper conversations and be interested in new things. Document these. Keep a journal, take photos of these things, and daily photos of yourself. By being able to draw on the progress you are making, it will make it harder to go back. I also started a newsletter writing about things I’ve learned called The Champions Journal.
5. Tell Your Friends and Family: The hardest thing is having to constantly say no to invitations to pubs, bars, clubs, to drink. You don’t have to say no to the venues, but the alcohol is hard. Explain to your family and friends not only what you are doing, but why you are doing it. If they understand the reasons, they then come on the journey with you and support you. You will no longer be constantly offered or ridiculed for not drinking, but still be included. I took too long to do this, but once I did, the sentiment changed toward what I was doing from these people. It makes it that much easier.
6. Download I Am Sober: This is a vanity metric, but to open it each day or week, and see the total number of days since my last drink brings in a sense of gaming. I don’t want my streak to end. I want to see how high I can get it. A little subliminal way of sticking to the course.

Now, these are things that helped me - I’m not saying they will help you, but if you can implement some, or your own, you are well on your way to winning the battle.

It’s tough out there, but the reward, each day, is so worth it.

Society is intricately linked with alcohol. Social gatherings, meals, stress relief, and even dating often involve drinking. Saying 'no' to alcohol means repeatedly refusing these societal norms, which can be incredibly taxing both mentally and physically. The judgment and pressure that come from opting out can be relentless and draining.

Having a support system is indispensable. Positive reinforcement and understanding from those around me were crucial. They acknowledged my choice and created environments where I didn't feel pressured to drink, making my journey more manageable.

Whether you are years in or just thinking about becoming sober - if I can help one person, that is deemed a success for me.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Glad-Room5715 on 2024-01-18 04:46:03+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/1RosaTorres on 2024-01-17 16:56:13+00:00.

Number 1 Rule I have learned and followed “ Treat People the way you want to be treated”

Because that is some one Love one your taking care of, You might be the only person that makes them smile

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Chandan28 on 2024-01-17 15:22:03+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/bbahng on 2024-01-17 11:17:35+00:00.

This is probably not in-line with the sub's usual content, but I just wanted to share something that personally gives me motivation.

Whenever I watch a KPOP survival show like Produce 48, I can't help but be amazed at the trainees' sheer dedication and willpower. In a word, survival shows involve elite trainees coming together from many different KPOP companies to compete against each other for a grueling 6 months, with the winners ultimately forming a new KPOP group. In Produce 48, 100 trainees come from both Korea and Japan, and 12 make it to the end, officially becoming professional idols.

Part of what inspires me is how young the trainees are - the majority of the trainees are 14-18 years old. Seeing such young girls fighting for their lives to chase their dream always makes me a bit emotional. In Produce, there are trainees who fall ill, and continue practicing through it. Some practice through the night till past 4 AM, and not only is their practice mentally demanding, but also utterly physically exhausting (unlike studying, which is only the former). Many impose strict diets on themselves to maintain their physique. And half the trainees come all the way from Japan to participate in this cutthroat competition, at ~15 years old, alone without their parents, surrounded by foreign faces and rivals, and must memorize and perform in a foreign language that is the native tongue of their opponents.

I'm not saying any of this is healthy or advisable, but simply that this is what these girls do to pursue their dreams. When watching them, I often think about what the hell I was doing at that age. And seeing their grit, determination, and desperation honestly shames me into getting off my butt and starting the studying I should be doing.

And there's always the reminder that out of those 100 trainees, only 12 made it. Every trainee there was outstanding in some way - they won out over hundreds if not thousands of other applicants in the preliminary audition phases - and still 90% of them did not make it. It reminds me that the world is hard no matter what path we choose, and that studying is easy in comparison.

If anyone wants to check out Produce sometime, just Google "Watch Produce 48 Ep 1" (I watch it on kshow123). The episodes are an hour long each, so it's a good meaty show if you have nothing to watch. And there are many truly exhilarating, hilarious, and heartbreaking moments throughout, I really recommend it. That's all I wanted to share, happy studying everyone, and best of luck in whatever you're doing!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/StadtJuwelier on 2024-01-17 09:48:12+00:00.

Original Title: [Tool] Started meditating regularly. Sometimes I've had problems focussing on breathing. Started listening to nature-sounds while meditating and it has worked so well for me! Thought I'd share if anyone wants to try :)

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Glad-Room5715 on 2024-01-17 05:32:39+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/blinkycake on 2024-01-17 01:39:06+00:00.

I have a talent for art and a desire to start a creative career of my own making, but feel like I'm being held back by doubts about creative careers. I'm about to be 35 and want to start a creative career in art (freelance illustration and painting) and I'm haunted by the words of my mother when I was a teen that I wasn't competitive enough and that I'll starve. It's an awful thing to hear as a teen when every year before college mattered you were told you were artistically talented by everyone...I haven't been able to let it go nor the desire to create.

I know I want to do this because I've not been able to let go of the wonderful feeling it is to paint, I've tried, but the doubt I have that it's a viable career move keeps my paralyzed--even though I know plenty of creatives who make it work and struggle through it. That worry is even greater than my hate of being managed/working for a company... I've heard all the advice that I should just keep it a hobby, but given that every decent paying job I've had sucks up the space in my head, that doesn't work.

If you have a creative career or business, how did you push past the doubt? What keeps you making your next creation no matter the outcome?

Note: AI generated art isn't making things better, but I'm less worried about that than my own output.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/MessagesFromLife on 2024-01-16 21:15:54+00:00.

A message from Life to you:

I have something to confess.

I couldn't resist taking a quick sneak peek into your future.

And you know what?

You, my friend, are on the right path.

Everything is unfolding just as it should be.

You’re exactly where you need to be.

You´re heading towards everything you’ve ever wanted.

Now that you know things will turn out well,

You are going to put those worries about the future away.

Right? I thought so!

Love, Life

P.S: “But what If my dreams never come true?” trust me, they will. I’ve already checked it for you, and the coast is clear. Wink!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/MJdigi_Mark on 2024-01-16 19:55:00+00:00.

After every storm, I look for the rainbow, knowing that challenges bring growth and fun

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/mphard on 2024-01-16 19:30:41+00:00.

i did all the normal life things. went to college. worked at google then amazon. went out to events and made a bunch of friends. stayed relatively active (have 3 ACL reconstructions but i work out 4-5x a week and go hiking 3x a week). got married.

but around 28 i started to feel burned out of everything and now it’s a struggle to do anything. got divorced. got laid off. stopped hanging out with my friends. i still go to the gym and hike but i’m forcing myself to do it. the only thing i really enjoy doing now is playing magic the gathering every friday with a couple of friends.

i’m not upset about divorce/getting laid off. those things happened because i just couldn’t keep going.

i don’t want my life to continue downhill but i also don’t know how to get my drive back.

for those in your 30s, how do you keep going?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/MJdigi_Mark on 2024-01-16 17:15:48+00:00.

Begin with the end in mind, worry less about the how, and care more about your people

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/spiderinweb on 2024-01-16 12:47:44+00:00.

These are all the things I've learned all my life up until now.

1. Not everyone is a good person. Some people actually want to see you fail. Stop oversharing. These nasty people will use it against you.
2. Don't let love blind your eyes, red flags are real.
3. if something feels wrong, it likely is.
4. Do not spend like there’s no tomorrow. Tomorrow will come and it won’t be pretty.
5. Money doesn’t exist until the deposit hits your bank account and business promises mean nothing until legal documents are signed.
6. Don't tell people if you have money.
7. Don't ever lend money to friends. Either give them money or don't.
8. Never develop bad habits, because once it's settled, changing them would be hard.
9. Focus on doing things right instead doing it hard, otherwise you would waste a lot of your energy and time (work smart first, then hit it hard).
10. Hard work is an absurd concept, it cannot be measured, while PRODUCTIVITY can be measured.
11. Don't rely on experience alone if you want to learn something (especially in career), learn actively (read books).
12. A good physique is really a good investment.
13. People care about how you look, so start to take care about your appearance.

Edit: from u/LittleLayla9

• Do never show yourself available at all times to anyone. Always say you will check your schedule, or try postponing something a little ahead than what was proposed at first (ofc there are exceptions but you got what I mean) People tend to take your time as granted if you are always available and the day you aren't, you might see total ingratitude. Value your time and make people value it too.

Thank you for showing this much love!

2Edit: a beautiful comment from u/esandybicycles

• I would add that it's so important to enjoy and develop long term positive relationships with friends and family over time. And it's also important to cultivate great places and towns/cities that are joyful and have meaning for you. This kind of positivity and sharing regular hobbies can be so crucial to overall happiness (things like camping groups, beaches, going to favorite places for coffee or some live music with others etc.).

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/sylsau on 2024-01-16 11:52:45+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/monkey_eyeing_banana on 2024-01-16 00:38:47+00:00.

Like I don't get it, no matter how hard I try, it just falls flat on my face. Something always gets in the way, either I fail exams, or get injured at gym, etc. My parents sort of help me financially but obviously I can't keep asking them for money and finding a job seems to be so impossibly hard at the moment.

And on top of that no matter what I try to do, I just end up feeling all depressed and missing my high school days and I don't know how to get over this at all. I just want to go back to the times when life was so great, when I didn't have all these academic and financial issues.

That and all the pressure I have to do well in college, seeing everyone else have their lives already planned out meanwhile I'm here as a college junior with little idea on what to do once I graduate.

I just feel like giving up. Anyone got any help/tips on how I can improve and deal with this?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/MessagesFromLife on 2024-01-15 21:33:17+00:00.

A message from Life to you:

Hola, amigo!

What have you been saying to yourself recently? You’re cautious with your money. You wouldn’t spend it recklessly

But what if you were just as careful with your words? Don’t aimlessly spend your words. Think of every word you say as an investment.

Talk about the things that inspire and uplift you. Speak about what you love and appreciate. Make every word you say an investment in your happiness.

What are you investing in? Your invisible Budget Buddy,

P.S. Remember to budget lots of kind words for yourself. That investment always pays off.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/scoobasteve6792 on 2024-01-15 21:11:49+00:00.

The mind is a powerful thing.

I'd recommend giving this a try. It sounds bonkers and out there but it actually shifted my perspective and feelings towards work massively and it was effortless.

Granted this was last year and I stopped doing it so I do need to get back on the horse but I wanted to share here for anyone that wants to give it a try as I'm going to start again tomorrow.

Basically, I was in a very tough position at work. I was getting bored, felt undervalued and I wasnt doing my best work either. Totally disengaged. I was starting to really hate my job, I'm in my 30s and it was making me depressed.

So what did I do?

Its really simple.

Every morning in the shower before work I would say..... Work is GOOD! That's it. I'm not a crack pot I swear.

Id see my partner in the morning too and would half jokingly say.... Work is GOOD.

After 3 days of this I had my first good week after a consistent horrible track record of bad months.

You might laugh but I kid not. This worked wonders and saved me.

Give it a go and come back to comment if it actually helped you too.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/saayoutloud on 2024-01-15 16:30:40+00:00.

I read an article about motivation last week that provided some practical guide on how to stay motivated and prevent procrastination.

I wasn't sure whether they'd help me, but I decided to give it a shot, and it worked like magic, keeping me motivated throughout the day.

To ensure that it was legitimate, I shared it with my girlfriend and asked her to test it, and it worked.

I'd want to share that article with everyone, and I hope it's useful to you as well.

A Simple Trick To Always Stay Motivated (Science-Based)

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/MJdigi_Mark on 2024-01-15 10:08:43+00:00.

It costs nothing to be a kind human being, but it can be worth everything to someone in need