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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/DetectiveJakePeraIta on 2024-01-01 00:28:42+00:00.

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Used to be good friends with a girl in school. I am always really bad at staying in touch. To the point where I just don’t. Don’t really know why either. I just don’t. Guess I don’t understand how.

Anyway I was good friends with this girl called Jay, hadn’t seen her since graduation in 21. Then I saw her again at the grocery store in august 22. She actually suggested a reunion back then, never happened of course. I should have sent her a message or something sooner. But I didn’t.

But I did just now. Said “hey Jay, we haven’t spoken in a while but I wanted to wish you a happy new year.” She replied, pretty much mirroring my message. I wonder how I should go about this? Should I respond rn or should I wait until tomorrow as it’s 1:00 am here now? And what should I even say? I’d like to do that reunion. Should I apologize for not reaching out? Should I immediately ask if she still wants that reunion?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/youknowtis on 2023-12-31 19:10:56+00:00.

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If we wrote em down, we can reference throughout the year!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/ToonKiller on 2023-12-31 18:51:54+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/youknowtis on 2023-12-31 19:10:56+00:00.

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If we wrote em down, we can reference throughout the year!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/ToonKiller on 2023-12-31 18:51:54+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Foxfully on 2023-12-31 12:54:19+00:00.

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There's 52 weeks in a year. That's not a lot of time!

12 months sounds like a lot because how long a single month can feel, and 365 days is an unquantifiably large number in one's mind.

But 52 weeks--that feels more real.

Think of it like this:

You have 52 chips to spend at the poker table. The only win you can take home is a genuinely satisfying year. You can't play it safe, because every round will inevitably drain your pot, one chip at a time. You're going to have to gamble on ideas and projects that may or may not end up adding to your life--and half-assing any one bet means you already wasted the chips you wagered. Every move is as much of a risk as it is an opportunity.

So what to do?

There's no crystal ball, and every year will surely hit you with one or more dark periods. They are terrible times where playing the game will feel inconsequential. Trivial. A luxury. Those weeks where you're struggling just to stay afloat.

But the chips keep disappearing from the table.

Fall as they may, you will be afforded no reprieve from time or regret.

It's stressful. It's exciting. And to make my weeks count, I've decided to record them right here, every week.

Every New Year's I'm filled with immense regret and disdain for my actions. I look back and cringe at who I was and the decisions I made. Sure, it wasn't all bad, but never have I been able to look back at year and feel "wow, I really gave it everything I had."

I have specific goals like anyone else, but their essence can be summarized in a single New Year's resolution:

"I want to live 2024 in such a way that the next New Year's Eve may be cause for celebration of a tremendous year."

Imagine that feeling. To be able to lean back on New Year's eve with a big smile and small regrets. They're small regrets because you spent 52 weeks painstakingly chipping away at each one, once giant and insurmountable, working hard to make them as minuscule as possible.

It's only realistic to assume that you will always have what-ifs, and that's normal. But they're tiny now. They pale in comparison to how hard you've worked and how content you feel.

As mentioned above, every week I will attempt to be consistent with my updates. They're not going to be big entries, but rather a weekly check-in I hope can inspire someone else. I'll group my goals and habits into categories and let you know how I'm faring in each one.

If you're interested in following along, I'll upload my update posts every Sunday starting January 7th. However, the first post will likely be a short one considering I won't be back home & ready to go until the 4th.

Let's do this, and ensure these 52 weeks are something we can finally be proud of!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Foxfully on 2023-12-31 12:54:19+00:00.

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There's 52 weeks in a year. That's not a lot of time!

12 months sounds like a lot because how long a single month can feel, and 365 days is an unquantifiably large number in one's mind.

But 52 weeks--that feels more real.

Think of it like this:

You have 52 chips to spend at the poker table. The only win you can take home is a genuinely satisfying year. You can't play it safe, because every round will inevitably drain your pot, one chip at a time. You're going to have to gamble on ideas and projects that may or may not end up adding to your life--and half-assing any one bet means you already wasted the chips you wagered. Every move is as much of a risk as it is an opportunity.

So what to do?

There's no crystal ball, and every year will surely hit you with one or more dark periods. They are terrible times where playing the game will feel inconsequential. Trivial. A luxury. Those weeks where you're struggling just to stay afloat.

But the chips keep disappearing from the table.

Fall as they may, you will be afforded no reprieve from time or regret.

It's stressful. It's exciting. And to make my weeks count, I've decided to record them right here, every week.

Every New Year's I'm filled with immense regret and disdain for my actions. I look back and cringe at who I was and the decisions I made. Sure, it wasn't all bad, but never have I been able to look back at year and feel "wow, I really gave it everything I had."

I have specific goals like anyone else, but their essence can be summarized in a single New Year's resolution:

"I want to live 2024 in such a way that the next New Year's Eve may be cause for celebration of a tremendous year."

Imagine that feeling. To be able to lean back on New Year's eve with a big smile and small regrets. They're small regrets because you spent 52 weeks painstakingly chipping away at each one, once giant and insurmountable, working hard to make them as minuscule as possible.

It's only realistic to assume that you will always have what-ifs, and that's normal. But they're tiny now. They pale in comparison to how hard you've worked and how content you feel.

As mentioned above, every week I will attempt to be consistent with my updates. They're not going to be big entries, but rather a weekly check-in I hope can inspire someone else. I'll group my goals and habits into categories and let you know how I'm faring in each one.

If you're interested in following along, I'll upload my update posts every Sunday starting January 7th. However, the first post will likely be a short one considering I won't be back home & ready to go until the 4th.

Let's do this, and ensure these 52 weeks are something we can finally be proud of!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Chandan28 on 2023-12-31 10:15:25+00:00.

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Tomorrow is the first day of the new year.

Start this new year with some good work.

If you do good, you will get good.

HAPPY NEW YEAR

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/MJdigi_Mark on 2023-12-31 06:10:49+00:00.

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Decide to make a difference today my friend, Today Is your day. We don't have time to wait until tomorrow.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/mayankgupta1802 on 2023-12-31 04:26:50+00:00.

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About - Bias for action! Take action rather than just discussing….

Got this story from the internet - Once upon a time, there was lack of rain in a village. All the villagers decided to pray for rain. On the day of prayer, all the people gathered, but only one boy came with an umbrella. That is faith.

I say, this is also the fact that the boy expected the prayers to conclude, to yield a result.

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How many times do you go to a meeting or discussion, with an expectation that the meeting will conclude in identifying some results and action items. And how many times it really happens? I have seen numerous meetings where everyone is busy discussing, arguing, debating. But they are all going in circles, causing deadlocks. No one is focussing on breaking the deadlock, on listing down the next actions. And it causes inefficiencies, wastages and more deadlocks.

My sincere request - always have bias for action. Bias for action (or action bias) is the tendency to favour action over inaction. Feel compelled to act, even when you don't have all the information you need or are uncertain about the outcome. Start small, but at least start somewhere. Don’t just keep rotating at the same point with no real advancements.

So next time - when you have lights, camera and sound all in place, just say ‘Action!’. Don’t wait. Even if you don’t have some of those, still take action and arrange those. Don’t just sit and wait.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Dark-GV on 2023-12-31 02:52:19+00:00.

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Do not be like others and start on 2024, it’s a trap!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/cranberry_soda37326 on 2023-12-31 02:15:16+00:00.

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I usually don’t make any new year’s resolutions, but in the past few weeks I really felt the need to try and flip my life 180 degrees after finally finding a purpose to my life instead of just floating by doing the bare minimum.

I have been planning and slowly incorporating some the things I want to improve, making trackers, inspo boards, and writing down my motivation for my various resolutions. I made my goals into SMART goals, and although it would be great to be perfect, I have improvement (not perfection) in mind. For example, although ideally I want to 8 hours of sleep every day, I am just currently trying to increase the frequency of how often I reach that goal with my trackers and trying to implement new routines.

After reading a few comments about new year’s resolutions on here though, it seems like so many people are convinced that new year’s resolutions don’t work or don’t last long.

Does anyone have success stories of their resolutions or of building habits? What are some tips that can help me maintain my new habits and work towards my goals?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/mayankgupta1802 on 2023-12-31 04:26:50+00:00.

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About - Bias for action! Take action rather than just discussing….

Got this story from the internet - Once upon a time, there was lack of rain in a village. All the villagers decided to pray for rain. On the day of prayer, all the people gathered, but only one boy came with an umbrella. That is faith.

I say, this is also the fact that the boy expected the prayers to conclude, to yield a result.

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How many times do you go to a meeting or discussion, with an expectation that the meeting will conclude in identifying some results and action items. And how many times it really happens? I have seen numerous meetings where everyone is busy discussing, arguing, debating. But they are all going in circles, causing deadlocks. No one is focussing on breaking the deadlock, on listing down the next actions. And it causes inefficiencies, wastages and more deadlocks.

My sincere request - always have bias for action. Bias for action (or action bias) is the tendency to favour action over inaction. Feel compelled to act, even when you don't have all the information you need or are uncertain about the outcome. Start small, but at least start somewhere. Don’t just keep rotating at the same point with no real advancements.

So next time - when you have lights, camera and sound all in place, just say ‘Action!’. Don’t wait. Even if you don’t have some of those, still take action and arrange those. Don’t just sit and wait.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Dark-GV on 2023-12-31 02:52:19+00:00.

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Do not be like others and start on 2024, it’s a trap!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/cranberry_soda37326 on 2023-12-31 02:15:16+00:00.

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I usually don’t make any new year’s resolutions, but in the past few weeks I really felt the need to try and flip my life 180 degrees after finally finding a purpose to my life instead of just floating by doing the bare minimum.

I have been planning and slowly incorporating some the things I want to improve, making trackers, inspo boards, and writing down my motivation for my various resolutions. I made my goals into SMART goals, and although it would be great to be perfect, I have improvement (not perfection) in mind. For example, although ideally I want to 8 hours of sleep every day, I am just currently trying to increase the frequency of how often I reach that goal with my trackers and trying to implement new routines.

After reading a few comments about new year’s resolutions on here though, it seems like so many people are convinced that new year’s resolutions don’t work or don’t last long.

Does anyone have success stories of their resolutions or of building habits? What are some tips that can help me maintain my new habits and work towards my goals?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Weapon3600 on 2023-12-31 00:18:37+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/clmtt on 2023-12-30 23:18:30+00:00.

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I’ve always been an emotionally distant person. As someone who went through major social difficulties as a kid, I’ve grown to be distant. I have some friends and family close by, but I never allow myself to be close to people. I’ve lost some really nice friends because of that.

My spouse, although we have a great marriage, constantly complains I close myself up and can never talk about my feelings.

I want to get close to friends again. I want to start talking to old acquaintances again. Even if it is to find out we don’t have anything in common anymore. I want to face emotions and relationships head on. I want to take the lead in conversations, to call people, to be open.

Those are all my goals. But I don’t know where to start. What advice would you give me?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/khaksar3g on 2023-12-30 20:12:34+00:00.

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If you know how quickly people forget the dead. You will stop living to impress people.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/debugger_life on 2023-12-30 18:04:16+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Hamerdesk55 on 2023-12-30 17:08:16+00:00.

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I’ve never felt the need to join the 5am club, or lock my phone away during the day, or do any of those other hacks that productivity gurus are constantly preaching.

But something feels different about 2024. I’m suddenly extremely motivated to really, and I mean really, take control of my life and reach my full potential. I don’t know if it’s something in the air, or just the nice even-number year, but I have this urge to make 2024 my bitch.

If you guys are interested (and maybe it will motivate you too), here are the main habits that I am going to STICK WITH this year to absolutely kill it.

Meditation. It all starts at the base. A sound mind will put you in the position to crush every day ahead of you. I’ve found that whenever I meditate for 20 minutes in the morning, my ADHD is significantly less distracting throughout the entire day. And when I have time for a second session in the afternoon, I am a monk-like animal. Something about forcing your monkey brain to sit the fuck still for long enough, and then you get used to it.

Limiting Screen Time. I’m so close to the point in believing that phones are evil. They have this crazy power to make me want to check it every 2 minutes, and then get sucked into social media every time I do. And it’s not just the actual time that I spend on my phone that’s lost, the constant context switching makes me lose the ENTIRE day. The “Present - Screen Time” app has been an absolute GAME CHANGER for me recently - giving me reminders when scrolling too long, blocking apps for focus sessions, and actually letting me compete against my friends for lower screen time - all in a gamified way.

Exercise. A sounds body creates a sound mind. I’ve never been overweight, but I’ve also never been able to get into a consistent exercise routine. And I know it’s holding me back from having the energy I need to just absolutely kill it. I’ve decided that I’m going to splurge a bit on 10 personal training sessions in the New Year to give me the momentum I need..

Environment. Okay, this isn’t a habit, but environment is everything. I live in New York City - been here for 5 years now. I used to love it, but it’s been completely weighing on my soul recently. The lack of sunlight and fresh air, drinking culture, small shitty apartment, homeless people everywhere. It’s just depressing and demoralizing. I want to move somewhere warm, with sunlight, and lower cost of living. Somewhere where I can work from home and feel happy, not claustrophobic. Suggestions very much appreciated!

There’s so many productivity tools and tricks out there, it can be extremely overwhelming. But I welcome any suggestions to help me reach my goals this year.

I feel the motivation seething through my veins just by writing this. I’ve had some good momentum the past month starting on these habits, and I can just feel that 2024 is going to be my year. Make it your year too. Make 2024 your bitch...

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/tim-sutherland on 2023-12-30 14:45:47+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/5ivesos on 2023-12-30 14:03:45+00:00.

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What are some bite-sized goals you have for 2024?

I’ve never liked New Year’s resolutions as they’re often so big and grand and vague. I’ve been into settings 20-30 bite-sized goals instead every year, things that help me build habits: eg some from this year were to listen to a news podcast during breakfast every day for a week, run 100km in a month, and practice a language daily for two weeks.

What are some bite-sized goals you’re setting for yourself for 2024?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/tim-sutherland on 2023-12-30 14:45:47+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/5ivesos on 2023-12-30 14:03:45+00:00.

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What are some bite-sized goals you have for 2024?

I’ve never liked New Year’s resolutions as they’re often so big and grand and vague. I’ve been into settings 20-30 bite-sized goals instead every year, things that help me build habits: eg some from this year were to listen to a news podcast during breakfast every day for a week, run 100km in a month, and practice a language daily for two weeks.

What are some bite-sized goals you’re setting for yourself for 2024?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/spiderinweb on 2023-12-30 13:05:11+00:00.

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I hope everyone is doing well in every aspect of their lives. And if not, that's okay, I'm here with you, and we'll try to fix that!

I'll talk a bit about myself and my journey. I'm 24 years old and received my bachelor's degree in Bcom three years ago. Currently, but somehow, now am a developer and a writer.

I was never a hardworking student. My parents always told me that I was smart, but they never emphasized the importance of hard work. This led me to believe that I didn't have to work as hard as others did.

I grew up in a religious but happy family. My dad was the type of person who was as caring as my mother, who always tried to protect me. They both love me equally.

But as from a middle-class family and having an entrepreneurial mindset, made me realize a lot.

I had to learn these lessons the hard way, like many of you. However, I've learned a lot during these trials and errors, and I've developed a lot. I'm sure these tips can be helpful to some of you and can be used in your life to build a better version of yourself!

So here we go :

1. Be grateful for everything and everyone

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It's important to acknowledge what you already have in your life if you want to be truly happy. Otherwise, you'll always be chasing after something you don't have - and even when you get it, the cycle starts all over again.

For example, you might say things like "I'll be happy when I'm rich," or "I'll be happy when I pass that exam."

But the truth is, life is a journey, not a destination. You need to learn to enjoy every moment of it. To do this, try making a list of everything you're grateful for in your life.

Look at this list every morning and remember to appreciate what you have while you still have it. Don't take anything for granted - celebrate every breath and be thankful for the blessings in your life.

2. The past doesn’t have any control over defining you

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We all have made mistakes and have regrets in life, as nobody is perfect. However, it's essential to realize that constantly dwelling on them won't change what has already happened.

The past is gone, and it's time to focus on the present and future.

Do you really want to look back in a month, a year, or even a decade and regret wasting your time? Don't let yourself get lost in thoughts about what could have been or should have happened. Instead, focus on making the most of your life now.

3. There are things you don’t have control over

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During my last year's exam, I failed because I tried to control the outcome and wanted to be absolutely sure about it. However, this approach doesn't always work and can lead to increased stress and anxiety.

Focusing on things that you can't control will only make you feel worse and affect your productivity.

Instead, when you find yourself worrying about something that's beyond your control, try to let go of it and focus on what you can control in that area. This will allow you to be more productive and feel more in control.

4. Love the person you see in the mirror

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As I mentioned before, nobody is perfect. So why bother seeking perfection? We all have flaws and beauties within us.

If you are not satisfied with yourself, how can you expect others to love you? A bad self-image can be destructive.

Learn to acknowledge your strengths and let go of the things you cannot change about yourself. Believe me, no one will ever criticize you as harshly as you criticize yourself!

5. Hang out with positive and successful people.

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Remember, other people do not define you, but the company you keep can greatly impact your life.

As the saying goes, "Show me your friends, and I'll show you your future."

Surrounding yourself with positive and successful people will lift your standards and broaden your horizons. On the other hand, it is best to stay away from negative and small-minded people. Being around them will only discourage you.

If you cannot distance yourself from them, encourage them to change their perspective on life. However, do not waste too much time and energy on someone resistant to change.

6. You don’t have to know everything

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Believing that you are an expert in everything is a false notion that can lead to failure and distress.

Acknowledging the fact that you don't know everything can inspire you to continue learning and seeking assistance from others (not just anyone!) to help you grow and view your problems from different perspectives.

It's important to remember that you are not always right!

7. Farming of the right mindset AKA Growth

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Your mindset is everything!

Regardless of how much effort you have put in or what you have accomplished, without the right mindset, you will be back to square one as soon as the first setback or relapse occurs.

Instead of focusing on how much further you have to go, always reflect on how far you've come, practice positivity in every situation, and transform your weaknesses into strengths.

Everyone experiences setbacks and relapses, but the true winners are those who learn from their experiences and recover from them rather than wallowing in self-pity! Some people may equate positivity with being unrealistic, but it's important to remember that a limited mindset can make everything appear "unrealistic."

8. Good habits guide you to a better you

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Motivation is the key to getting started, but it's the habit that keeps you going. We all know what's good for us, but it's not enough if we don't make a plan and act on it. However, it's important not to overwhelm ourselves by taking on too much at once. Work on one thing at a time to improve yourself. As you progress, you'll become more disciplined and organized, and you'll be able to make faster progress.

Here are a few habits that can help you improve your life:

• Fix your sleeping schedule.

• Meditate every day in fresh air.

• Read more self-improvement books and avoid binge

-watching hours of Netflix or YouTube.

• Exercise daily for at least 30 minutes.

• Eat only until you're about 80% full, drink plenty of water, and avoid junk food.

• Limit your use of social media as much as possible.

• Start your day by completing a small task, such as making your bed.

• Plan your day in advance, even if you don't have many specific tasks to complete.

Use a notebook or a task management app to keep track of everything you need to do. There are many other habits that you can develop to improve your life. Make a list of the habits you want to cultivate and work on them one by one.

9. Accept that you made mistakes, then forgive yourself, and move on

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The energy in our body and mind is limited and there comes a point where it gets depleted. Constantly dwelling on your mistakes doesn't change the fact that you've made them, but it does consume a significant amount of your daily energy.

This can lead to feeling exhausted and unmotivated, causing you to procrastinate and put things off until tomorrow.

Remember that there is no such thing as failure or mistake as long as you learn from them and make an effort not to repeat them.

10. You are the captain of your ship so take responsibility for your life

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Many of us still look for something or someone to blame for whatever shit doesn’t go well in our life right?

But as long you realize and accept the fact that you are only the sailor of your ship, nothing will change your life, and if something does you won’t even notice it

Be completely honest with yourself and think about every failure and relapse that happened to you, were you in charge of doing it or did anyone tie you in front of your screen while threatening you with a gun, making you watch porn and masturbate? yep, that's what I thought!

I can guarantee you can find something you could've done better in everything that you failed at!

And even if there are some external forces and other things involved you still have full control over making your choices based on the situation, So don't lie to yourself!

11. You need to consider side characters too

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You should realize that every person that you meet is fighting a battle that you know nothing about! So don't be so quick to make everything about yourself, Don't judge people easily!

Learn to Listen better and you'll understand better.

12. Fill yourself with humble

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Life has many ups and downs so Never ever ever look down on anybody because you don't know how bad you may fall yourself one day!

Be kind, Forgive others, and help them without expecting anything in return!

I Promise It will return to you!

13. Be in the moment, Best time to plant a tree is right now or 5 years later

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To be honest I rather say only focus on your next hour!

You should have plans for your future and no one is denying that but focusing on anything more than your following day and hours has a great chance of stressing you ...

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