theotherben

Wow, first time I hear of Bear Blogs, thanks for sharing, I will try it out!

I also find blogs more cozy, nothing wrong with emails for communicating (if you use a good email provider/self-host).

And I can’t get my friends to join my Matrix channel instead of the discord server they are used to using.

I have managed to get friends to use Matrix but not switch, if they don't even bother to try using it (i really mean use, not replace or switch, that's a bigger ask) they are either just lazy (I don't mean it in a bad way, some people usually are because they are in a bad mental state and just too exhausted day-to-day) or it's just not worth your time as much as you think. There are friends and there are people who are just going along.

so my bias is definitely towards non-real-time social media sites. Growing up with dyslexia and AIM

Have you heard of Neocities? They're also open-source.

I agree that small communities are better, by the way, the way you talked about is mostly how it is in language learning servers, some are really comfy, even more if its of a single language only and one that isn't usually listed as most spoken languages worldwide since people learning those others have very really specific curiosity/need/couldn't find many communities on it. Maybe you'd like it more, I don't know if there are Matrix servers like those yet, maybe I just haven't found too.

When it comes to Discord, I think it's easier to sign up on Matrix than Discord though, Element is pretty straightforward and already pre-selects an instance when signing up for those who isn't familiar with decentralized tech yet. I bet if Lemmy had a landing page for people to share when trying to convince others to join to sign up and pre-select lemmy.ml (since it is maintained by one of the devs, you are already trusting using their software anyway) it could help, or not, just an idea.

I was criticizing your approach to atttempt to keep people "private" while having their identity openly to show to anyone, Meta already does some of it and that does not solve it.

While you did acknowledge the dangers you tried making points there are workarounds to make people safe while pseudo private if they want to. I'm saying there's no such thing if your identity is public, it doesn't matter if its a bare minimum, that will give it a start to stalkers. Your line was drawn on this:

I can only imagine what happens to all those people who have basic walkthroughs for Nintendo emulation only to have hired mobs show up to their door to break their knees within the week. Or a conservative government find a reason to jail (or worse) someone asking about abortion options.

...

So if you can’t be anonymous and talk about sensitive topics without it resulting in rage and propaganda and you can’t have your name attached to sensitive topics without it resulting in a risk of doxing or violence, what’s the answer?

That's what I was addressing while taking your possibke workarounds to make someone pseudo private.

You and I agree that there are pros and cons of anonymity, but it falls on good faith and high quality moderation to make sure anonymity is better than having your name attached to something.

If that was your final point and whole stance, then we do agree. But I don't think moderation is solution to when people are exposed, there ain't just a single page on the internet where people can spread doxxed info on someone. However, if you mean that the problem with anonymity although the best choice is lack of proper moderation, then we're definitely on the same page.

And it’s gotta be web based, unlike Discord communities.

What do you mean by that?

You basically just described the situation with Facebook/Instagram and they don't really help much, ever heard of web scrapping and OSINT?

So if you can’t be anonymous and talk about sensitive topics without it resulting in rage and propaganda and you can’t have your name attached to sensitive topics without it resulting in a risk of doxing or violence, what’s the answer? I honestly have no idea. :/

So basically you criticize but provide no solution for people who can have their identity stolen/stalker who can happen to be very tech knowledgeable/work or administrate that very social media/corrupt law enforcement.

You have a picture of where people can openly say anything as long as they don't promote hatred while others can know who said it and try finding all their online footprint to stalk, extremely idealistic and zero pragmatism, who's to say the stalker isn't violent and because of that now the person is in physical danger? Your problem is lack of proper moderation where people can be anonymous.

Did you seriously not see that I acknowledged the privacy and safety concerns?

You didn't before but now you edited 2h after my reply which is public for anyone to check, a bit immature to pretend you just didn't do that now but fine.

Don't you mean those replies under the heated posts should be shown to fewer people? If you mean to hide the post entirely, people could weaponize this mecanism to hide posts they don't agree with from others.

This guy is likely from Finland considering his instance or maybe not. They're nice people but they are so well more civilized on that sphere of the planet than the rest of the world, he's in a social bubble that the entire world behaves the same most likely.

Make everyone use their real names.

Yeah, because that won't make people overly anxious and some fake a lot of their interactions or be too obsessed, the best part is: the examples of this are the biggest social medias such as Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn. Also, have you thought of those who are in danger because they have an ex or a random internet user stalking them all over? Congratulations, that'd not help those people.

Anonymity can be good and bad but the good can overweigh the bad if you care that much to at least moderate the bad.

If it’s something rude or something I don’t have the guts to say to a person’s face, or something I don’t want shared to everyone I know, then I don’t post it.

This is a psychology community, talking is healthy, you're thinking everyone must suffer of exposing themselves because the platform can't be properly moderated? Then it shouldn't even be public.

So also avoid cat pictures or too many? He said he wants people to not obsessively spend their time in it, and guess what, the internet is crazy with cats. I don't think this is the way, text-only would do a lot better than image-only where people need to pay less attention.

From the repository which has some "See here" and no hyperlinks, is this a mirror or what? That'd explain so many claims and no proof to back it up, just point fingers but don't make your case:

Cinux

Linus Torvalds has been sold out to big tech companies like Google and Microsoft. He himself is a billionaire and no longer writes any code.

Since when he became billionaire? Explain more on:

Linus Torvalds has been sold out to big tech companies like Google and Microsoft.

It looks like more lack of understanding of licenses if you are talking about some of their employees being involved in the kernel development.

Many people, including myself, are very unhappy with his decisions, like the removal of several Russian developers from kernel maintainership status.

Many people like how much? Also lacking references.

since Rust language developers and Rust foundations are very hostile to Russia and China

Also heavy claim and no reference to back it up.