"Are there no prisons? Are there no work houses?"
jbrains
joined 1 year ago
"I'll try not to swear around you. I'm sorry. I will probably not be perfect, but I assure you I'm trying."
That's enough.
I assume you are genuinely sorry and have decided you want to behave differently around them.
Pitch me. I could switch, but it would help a great deal to understand more about why. I'm open to change, but not eager to change.
I'm very happy. I had the same early experience as you, but I kept with it. I've been using it several years now. When I'm forced back to vim, my fingers remember just enough, but I have to undo pretty often.
I kakoune instead.
Pink noise sounds soothing.
"You first." 🤷♂️
Just finished Chronologically LOST.
"I'm not looking for a family here. I never was. Thank you for the invitation, but no."
It could be that simple.
It seems to me that by speaking up when you're still calm, you can avoid erupting at an inopportune moment and causing the huge scene that might worry you.
I used to feel terrified about how people judged me--for good reason, based on how people treated me when I was young. Eventually, I grew utterly exhausted from trying to please everyone, after which it became much easier to speak up for myself.
Now I find it easy to offer a cheery "No, thanks" while acting like it's perfectly normal and leaving the other person to be confused and to deal with it.
I wish you peace as you work towards finding your voice.
"I'm not interested. Please leave me alone."
"The only person who won't fire you is you."