jbrains

Forget IQ for a moment, for all the good reasons that other people have given you.

One of you will know more than the other or learn more easily than the other. That's unavoidable. Even if the gap seems small, there might be key moments where the gap causes conflict. This is going to happen, whether it's you or them who "is ahead".

The question is this: how do you handle it?

If you treat each other with contempt, that's a problem. That could be you assuming that they are always going to look down or you or them assuming that you're not trying to "be better". There are many ways for this kind do contempt to show itself in your relationship. Each of you has the responsibility to not think that way. Each of you has the responsibility for accepting and loving the other.

If you can't learn to do that, then your relationship is doomed to fail. If you can learn to do that, then you stand a chance.

You both can choose.

Some things about my partner used to irritate me and I learned to accept them for the things they've tried to change but just can't. That acceptance is key.

Good luck and peace.

Our naming convention was comic strip characters, hence Hobbes, Casper, and Quincy.

*Bobby.

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The second vowel is an unstressed "i". In most varieties of English, since it is unstressed, we pronounce it as a schwa, which sounds roughly like "uh".

If you'd like to articulate that syllable, like you might do in French, then pronounce it like the "i" in "sit". That's completely optional.

Yes, I've heard. And even when they were quite punctual, a difference of one minute was very noticeable and reliably commented on.

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You seem to be ready for either mindfulness meditation or Stoic philosophy. Neither one provides a quick fix, but the benefits accumulate over time.

I'm sorry that you're going through this. I wish you peace.

False syllogism (you speak Chinese, so you're an asshole) or maybe premature generalization (some Chinese speakers are assholes, therefore all Chinese speakers are assholes).

There is an implicit binary choice here, so "whether" fits. Both work, although I, for one, prefer to use "whether" for binary choices and "if" when there are more options. This is similar to my preference for "between" only for two things and "among" for more than two.

The phrase "I'm wondering if... can..." needs a noun or pronoun between "if" and "can". As soon as you try to remove that (by moving it out to "The monkey who..."), the phrase stops being grammatical. We'd understand you, but it would require significant effort to parse the sentence. That seems to be what makes this sound strange, no matter what we try to do with it.

I don't know whether other languages can do this, but English can't.

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