emokidforever

joined 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I'm AuDHD. I need my keys and things in the same spot, but I also struggle to remember to actually put them there. That's the missing part of the habit for me. I have to consciously think "put them here" every time or future me will have a meltdown when they can't find what should be there.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

On the surface, I probably look like the person you're describing, but no one knew I had an ADHD diagnosis that went ignored in childhood. No one knew how much I was masking every day. It's harder now because I have to make my own meals, clean my house, etc. All the things I didn't have to do as a kid. I got to learn, which I loved (my special interest is research) and do various activities I enjoyed, even if it was exhausting. Now, I'm stuck doing all the things I was never taught by my family, with no structure, just trying to survive. Of course it's harder than when I was a kid. Those memes help me feel valid and seen, something my family were never willing to do, but at least now I have friends that get it.

There's so much trauma that happens from neurodivergence being ignored in childhood, and that takes time to process. I spend a lot of my days crying over all the times I wasn't allowed to cry growing up, processing things in therapy, etc. I literally can't force myself to enjoy life without first having the needed tools. It's sad that I can't do what I used to, but I'm slowly getting there. Kindness and patience are what are needed most, when that's not something I was given as a child.

All this to say, you never know what's below the surface.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (4 children)

This is me too, including every janky MMO I think I might remotely like. Gotta grab my character name. But Threads, haven't bothered to touch it.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I've learned from the Japanese phrase 'itadakimasu,' which is said before eating as a way to thank the person that prepared the food. I think in the west, a lot of us grew up learning to say things like grace before a meal, but that is too religious for me and gives God credit for peoples' hard work instead. I love the idea of ritualistically thanking the people who actually made the food. It was one of the things I appreciated while studying there that has stuck with me.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Sadly, be shocked. I got a friend through registering to vote and even offered a ride on election day this past November and she still decided to not bother "because politics are stressful to hear about."

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

This has been my way. I knew it would be hard, so every time I find myself wanting to check reddit, I think of what I planned to do there and attempt to find an alternative. It's led to a lot more browsing the internet like I used to "back in the day." And then I only visit reddit if I can't find what I was looking for elsewhere. For most things, I find alternatives easily. I've mentioned in comments before, really the only things that I haven't been able to replace are the CPTSD and CPTSD memes subreddits.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Don't forget Myspace. I so miss that, Xanga, and AIM.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Yep, between Reddit and Twitter, I might need to buy some more popcorn.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I’m very much like this, but typically only in the defense of others. I struggle to stand up for myself at all

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Definitely. That’s what it is for me.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

I can't even treat my Sims badly

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm quite happy with mine :D

view more: ‹ prev next ›