If you are new to Linux just use Fedora. Everything will just work and you can install all your apps via the store.
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Never had issues with Gnome on low end hardware but, you can disable animations in the accessibility settings. (No extensions needed!)
Seriously though. After years SteamVR still doesn't work with their own headset.
I do recall the thread linked and I think a few individuals whose sole purpose on the Gnome GitLab was insulting the Gnome maintainers were banned. Sometimes Gnome's obsession with polish can be a double edged sword. I don't think anyone on the Gnome team let's merge requests die on purpose its just a lack of communication from them. Wish Gnome would take some risks with the DE with new features in the future.
I'm guessing you're talking about something specific and if so could you link the pull requests or repository?
Like the no default dark mode for websites? I just use the Dark Reader extension.
Shoot Steam Support a email
Last I checked the Flatpak is an old version of Proton VPN. Look up how to get the beta release for your distro to get the latest features.
Revolt and Mastodon aren't even in the same ball park.
GrapheneOS?
GE 17 was released 3 weeks ago and 18 was released today. Just a new release aka update.
Most people in the Linux community are none of the above.