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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

yay david<3

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

they would probably be very quiet about it irl and post paragraphs about it later that day

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

then to ask simply, how do you want people to refer to you when talking to you online? whether you include a pronoun tag or not, people are going to refer to you

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

fair enough, also .ml isn't my instance so I don't wanna be too pushy on whether options like friend or comrade are preferred here. @[email protected] might be better to weigh in specifics like that

tho I do wanna go back to this real quick

I go by she/her, but I don't want to advertise this. I have my own struggles with gender, even if I'm ultimately cis, and forcing me to report my gender in my username seems frankly gender essentialist.

pronouns, in this case, are really just used to know how to refer to you. if I were referring to you without seeing your above comments I'd probably avoid pronouns (none/use name). other people who are mindful of this would end up doing the same or maybe using they/them to be safe. in person, it sounds like you don't have the issue of needing to provide pronouns (with many complicated feelings on that). in the same way that you say the trans community sees you as a person and not simply your assigned gender at birth, this isn't a request to box you in or anything like that. this community isn't binary focused or gender essentialist. it's just how would you like us to talk about you? if that's something you're not sure on, maybe a label like (it's complicated) or something acknowledging it's a complex topic for you. it doesn't have to mean you're not cis to feel weird about the weight of the expected gender binary in society. that can hurt trans and cis people alike

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)

on hex there's both a comrade option and a use name option. the latter seems particularly relevant based on what you said

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 weeks ago

sharing your pronouns is the very least you can do to show support to trans comrades, so this small request shouldn't be an issue at all

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

🤡 take. if you don't want to share your pronouns, unsure or use name are both fine. it doesn't out you or misgender you. this is debate nonsense to try to discredit a policy that is definitively helpful for trans people

 

1984

 
[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

They've allowed their site to get flooded with Chinese trash

right, so you checked the country of origin of every product then? smuglord

 
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

hmm, may check this out tho I've already made mint work to pretty well for gaming

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 month ago

Germany siding with genocide?? So unexpected!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Hezbollah will stop them just fine if the zionists don't trip over themselves in the process

 

there should also be a trans flag hanging up in that room

 

countdown but it's estrogen

 
 

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