Makes sense. If you do it and you feel like you want more people to come, let me know! Although if there's music there's a very good chance I will dance enough to seriously embarrass myself.
I find frequently even people who have the same disability or an adjacent one can say some really ignorant stuff, almost as if their struggles gives them a license to judge others. Relating to others' struggles is good and validating, but don't let it turn into a comparison.
Even for myself, I didn't understand the whole picture of what ptsd can do to you when I was dealing with just anxiety. Now that I've experienced it, I understand the fucking sheer terror that is living in hypervigilance mode, it really seems unfathomable if you haven't been there. And I have no idea if I experience it like others do. Not saying one is worse than the other but they are not just variations of the same thing.
I'm looking forward to the world being a better place when people in general understand it's best not to try and decide for someone else what their experiences mean to them, and nobody wins when you compare suffering. I hope we make a lot of progress in my lifetime.
Do you have supportive people now? It's never too late for a party! I'd definitely go to a bridal shower if the bride couldn't do it before getting married. I say go all out if you want one. Now is the time to go overboard in supporting trans people anyway, at least in my country.
I thought it was birds dancing that was for mating. But then again, I do dance for my girlfriend. Not great for mating, but she always laughs so I've got that going for me.
Oh yeah I just wasn't sure if that was it or I was missing something else. I see it in the same family as using "retarded" as a slur; another bastardization of a term for intellectual disabilities. I think it's easier for us with ADHD to feel a sort of brotherhood with those it was originally meant for, especially because people like me and probably many of us were called those specific things many times as a slur growing up.
My mouth (or thumbs) just haven't caught up. I saved your link though so I can review it occasionally and actually absorb it!
That tracks. I suppose it depends on whether I'm doing it to attract a mate or just doing it to feel good about myself.
Well, I guess to be fair, I do a lot of normal human behavior, like pooping and sometimes imagining inanimate objects have feelings. Maybe I just need to lighten up? ๐
Are you talking about "moron"? If so that's a good point, and it's especially silly to call out ableism while using ablest terms. Thanks for calling it out, my vocabulary hasn't caught up to my values.
Thanks! I agree
That's a good one I hadn't thought of.
BTW where can I find out more about dbzer0's instance? Like purpose/values/location/config (i.e. downvotes). I assume you have an in with someone important to have that username there (kidding ๐) . I'm not unhappy with where I'm at necessarily but I didn't do much research when picking, I just wanted to get on a different server that wasn't censoring things without even an announcement.
Thanks brother/sister/sibling!
(sorry I don't know your pronouns, I used to wonder if I would ever actually run into that with the way conversations work here but TIL)
I will try not to ban myself by accident.
Haha yeah, it's funny how many of the biggest decisions in life end up being made on the spur of the moment when you have to rather than after careful thought and deliberation. Or what seem like small moments that suddenly become much bigger that you never forget. I'm not sure if I'm making sense but at least I get what you're saying! ๐