Don't you think taking that hard-line stance kind of corners you into taking some nonsensical positions?
For example a physical power imbalance will always exist between two men of different sizes. Because the imbalance is there, you have to answer with a hard no when someone asks: "is it possible for two men of different sizes to consent to sex with one another?" But if someone asks "is it okay for two guys of different sizes to have sex?" you would presumably say yes.
Now you have been forced to say it is okay for sex to happen despite the impossibility of any consent having being given.
What do you think about the parallel I was trying to draw between the video I mentioned and this guy's question about paying for rape? I thought the reason that someone's interest could be caught by the video is similar in nature to the reasons someone might wonder "is it okay to pay to hurt someone"? And that train of thought leads naturally enough to "Well how much harm is permissible for what amount of money?" which leads naturally enough to imagining specific circumstances.
And those trains of thought are similar to the thought behind people's ancient musings about other tricky question of morality like the trolley problem. It's not peak philosophy it's just ordinary human thought. You shouldn't be so afraid or repulsed by it or whatever.