Teknevra

Hey there,

I've seen a lot of furry art depicting characters with their tongues sticking out lately.

I find them interesting (in a non-sexual manner), but I'm afraid it has some meaning that I don't know of, or is/represents a fetish.

Like this one:

So I was watching a show, Lucifer, to be precise, and I was absolutely shocked when I saw a fursuit in the episode that I just watched, I was grinning, and THEN they go to a convention, which I find amazing, I had no idea that there was even an episode like that, it just made my day,

Does anybody else get this? I see photos/videos from events on Reddit, telegram meet groups etc, and just feel so bad that I can't go to them.

As a 30 year old myself you're not old, you're not even middle aged. I've been in the fandom for over a decade and while I understand most people view 30 as "furry death" you're definitely not old enough to be presenting yourself as a "Grey Muzzle".

Most Grey Muzzle groups won't even let you join until you're over 50. Do people just do it because they don't feel like they fit in with younger furrys so go to the other extreme or they just want to appear like they're more "sage like" in the fandom than they actually are?

Idk I just think it's really weird how a lot of furrys act like once you pass 20 you're essentially just sentient mold and can only hangout with guys whos weekends plans are getting a urinary tract infection and bed sores.

I’ve been a furry for 11 years and I feel that theres not a lot of people who do anything different or new. I mean no offense to artists and fursuit makers, the style of furry art feels very similar and follows the same tropes.

It just doesn’t feel very creative and fresh.

There’s definitely artists that break the mold on artwork, but it’s not very often and so many artists feel extremely similar to the point that AI can create a generalized “ Furry artstyle”.

For fursuits, the Disney/ Anime styled eyes that a lot of makers use look pretty close to one another, again there’s always people who go against the grain, but it’s hard to find makers who can do different eye styles.

I don’t even have to start on the one joke furries have, it’s just really old and not funny imo.

The monoculture imo is especially prevalent in the furry music scene, as most of the music is Electronic, or some kind of Dubstep style from the Early 2010’s.

There’s maybe a few furry artists I like, but I just wish the fandom was more diverse in its craft and really lived up to the creative label the fandom has.

This is really one of my first public discussions about a few of my pet peeves with the fandom, so please excuse my rather jumbled post.

What's most popular nowadays?

Are sites like:

Weasyl,

SoFurry,

or

Furry Network,

still a thing?

Or is it mostly Bluesky, Discord Lemmy?

I wanted to join a couple more sites, but I'm unsure if I wanna make an account if the site is gonna be mostly dead.

I want to find some active communities and I'm curious where it's at currently.

How old is too old to become a furry?

Gosh i don't know what to do other than pretending this didn't happen at all?

It feels like he's judging me for the past few days (i've told him last week).

We've been together for a year and a half now, I never let him get my phone in fear that he would see the furry stuff in there, and in a jealosy fit of his I decided to trust him and told him I was a furry.

He didn't know anything about It, and trying to explain what furries were made him innitially think I was a zoophile for a split minute, gosh, the rage and disgust in his voice for those split seconds still breaks my heart when i look back at it.

I tried showing him furry art to try and make him see what furries were, bit all he said was, "these are Animals" in an accusatory tone...

But, at the end he seems to have accepted It, said he loves me, that we should not kink-shame each other, and then we kinda pretended that didn't happen for the rest of the date cause It was very embarassing.

But now and then he keeps sending messages about It, and saying stuff like, "you like to fuck Monsters"

I think he is doing research, he asked me if i was into puppyplay.

The bad thing is that he says and asks these things in an accusatory tone, as If I should be embaressed.

For the First time in months in feeling very lost in my realationship, fearing that this could be a Rift between us that would only grow bigger with time.

How could i better explain what furries are to my boyfriend?

I fear he still thinks it's a zoophile thing, and as I Said, he is still researching, but, when he did that on the date before my explanation, Google only showed him the absolute worst the fandom has to offer.

I've been going to meets since last February, and while I've had some fun and made a couple of friends (mostly just online), I still feel so out of place at meets.

Nobody ever asks me for a hug or photo, and my suit looks shit.

I just wish that I was more confident and actually could try and make irl friends.

Doesn't help that I'm 17, which causes me a bit of anxiety because I feel like people won't want to talk to me because of it.