Its anathema to the whole concept of the fediverse that one person - a lemmy dev - gets to decide something so important.
I should have clarified that it's 2 devs, Nutomic & Dessalines.
I am unsure if their political views have any affect on being the ones wanting to decide on important things like that. I know that they are both openly communist, and they both have Fidel Castro as their profile picture.
Perhaps the fediverse will get big enough that third-party developers will step in to fix this.
Unless they can convince the devs to integrate, I believe the third-party developers would have to fork the project and convince Lemmy instances to switch to their fork. From there, the third-party developers might change the name from Lemmy to something else.
Did you update your public IP address for your domain after changing ISPs?