To me this is on your management. If no one ever told you that you should have been going faster, how were you supposed to know that speed is preferred over accuracy?
If you want something from someone: Without communication, it is a wish. Living in lala land. With communication it becomes an expectation.
If management had been noticing your slowness and not talking to you, they either suck at their job(s) or it really doesn't matter what speed you go.
I feel like hypothetically it is a worthwhile thing to share with your friends that you and your partner have decided you want children and that the time is now. It's a big life decision, and when the time comes for myself and my partner, I will definitely want to talk with my close friends about it.
The conversation doesn't have to be about raw dogging, instead it could be about planning for children. Many people plan for children in advance of getting pergenat.