Lemmylefty

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[–] [email protected] 58 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

What do you like to play?

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago

-gasp-

I’ve found my community!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

While I definitely agree that routine checkups like that should be happening (and especially for people who just got their licenses or are 60+) at least for a car dominant culture like the US I can see that being a huge burden both on safety organizations/DMVs and on the drivers themselves. :/

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

That’s why I hate it when conservatives trot out that fake Voltaire quote about the ones who you can’t criticize are who rules you.

Bullshit. Kings and emperors have been satirized and mocked for millennia. It’s not that they can’t be criticized, it’s that after their nakedness is on display, the accusations fade into the dirt; nothing sticks, nothing matters.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

“No but you see they’re protected by the complacency and ignorance of the hordes of people they’ve hoodwinked!” “Are they now.”

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

People lived here fully and loved dearly. It’s sweet.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Yeah you’re right, I’m conflating the two.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Everything you’ve written here is accurate, with the exception of ethnic superiority. The current regime has been arguing that the Ukrainian race doesn’t even exist, that they’re just “little” or wayward Russians, which is why one of their genocidal moves is to steal children to try to prevent their demographic decline.

The Nazis would never have stolen Jewish children to make into German citizens after they enacted their Final Solution. Putin intends to swallow Ukraine AND her people, not just clear the land for Russians to move in. The “reeducation” of the stolen children shows that the point is to deny Ukrainians their own culture and heritage and simply claim it all for Russia.

A bit nitpicky, but someone is going to argue that because the actions of the Kremlin isn’t 1:1 with the Nazis that they simply can’t be compared. This is an understandable consideration under the view that the Holocaust was a uniquely systemic and thorough genocide of unprecedented proportions that the Russian attack hasn’t reached, but since the person you’re responding to is implying that the Ukrainians are the real Nazis then I imagine that that is not their viewpoint…

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

I’m kind of terrible with tofu and thick sauces; even with extra firm tofu that I’ve pressed and frozen/unfrozen, I manage to make it crumble about 90% of the time, so this is always wizardry to me.

Granted, I don’t deep fry it because it’s such a huge pain to deep fry so that’s probably my problem…

Do you think that seitan would hold up well with this? I’d think it’d mimic chicken well, while the tofu is moreso the paneer replacement.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It is definitely tough to shed that sense. Growing up knowing I was “weird” and therefore bad (no, it was just undiagnosed autism, but I was an adult before I knew that and that element of myself had long since been solidified) meant that if I wanted people to like me then I had to give more than they did in order to just break even, which is exhausting and unfair, especially since I have a tendency to read neutral expressions as negative ones.

One thing that has helped me is the realization that that happy feeling I get when someone came to me for help and I helped them? Goes both ways for good people. And it sucks for them, too, if you’re suffering and they could help but you were afraid to ask. Having standards is both a defense of yourself and a means of determining which people should stay prominent in your life.

 

I’ve become aware, as I get older, how my initial emotional reaction to conflict isn’t always fair and is usually pointed backward, defensive and angry. I also know that I do better if I have time alone to process how I’m feeling, and often by the time I’m done things have moved on.

What I’ve been working on is to stop using excuses - the moment has passed, I’d just be dredging up the same argument, I’ve had this conversation in my head a bunch but they never turn out exactly right - and just go back to the people involved and tell them how I feel because they deserve that effort. There have been disagreements I’ve had where I wasn’t in the wrong but the other party did something I can admire and appreciate, and it doesn’t hurt me any to say that.

And it never ends with what I imagine is “argument perfection”: a point by point discussion of intent and action and history. Which is silly because life is messy but it gets better and I and others grow more patient and willing to move forward if I’m not always bracing for a blow.

That’s…probably a bit confusing, but it’s been something I’ve been mulling over, so…what personality traits of yours are you working on?

 

Question inspired by a Charley horse that hit in the middle of the night.

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