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Narcissists. This is a textbook smear campaign.

The smear campaign is born out of a combination of factors, including the need to be right and have his or her “truth” become the prevailing script, retaining status and standing (making sure that his or her inner hidden shame doesn’t become public), and maintaining control of his or her image. The woman or man high in narcissistic traits curates her or his public persona very carefully; appearing successful, accomplished, and together is all-important.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201906/dealing-the-narcissists-smear-campaign

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I'm here! I've done acid and shrooms several times. I can talk about my experiences, but I have no idea if others experience it similarly.

Here's a trip simulator that I find is pretty close to the visual experience: https://youtu.be/3BxiYkCPZwI?si=dVD6sPpk7KdhFx3e

When working on long-term goals:

1. Set a date for completion.
2. Create a tentative schedule working backwards from that date. Include dates for completing main tasks.
3. Give extra time in the schedule for minor setbacks between tasks.
4. Give extra time in the schedule for a potential major setback overall.

For example, let's say the goal is to paint a house:

1. I can say I want it painted in 2 months, so I set it for the date of 9/17/24.

2. I figure I can paint a room every other day, so since the house has 5 rooms total, I think I can start painting 10 days before on 9/07/24. However, I need to consider that finding and purchasing paint and equipment will take time too. I think about it and consider that paint shopping can take me 2 days since I want to try out several stores, so the newer date is 9/05/24.

3. Now, I add some room for minor setbacks between each task. Rather than assuming I will paint every other day, I add two days in between. That means starting on 8/30/24. This allows me to take my time with rooms, skip a day if I feel tired, or adjust if I the rooms take longer to paint than I had anticipated for whatever reason. I also increase the time allotted for acquiring materials because so many things can happen: traffic, tired, unhappy with selection, need time to test samples and ask people, etc. Rather than only include 2 days for this, I include a whole week so I can see the paint samples on the walls and see which ones feel the best. We are not starting on 8/23/24.

4. Lastly, maybe something major could happen, such as getting sick, the store runs out of paint stock, my car breaks down, or I change my mind on one of the paint colors after seeing it up on the wall. I might even realize that I completely overlooked tasks, such as rearranging furniture, painting over errors/accidents, and clean up. I would then add a cushion of 2 weeks to the schedule to allow for that should it happen. So the actual start date is 8/9/24. This is much sooner than if we had gone with the original start date of 9/07/24, almost an entire month!

With this style of planning, I can take my sweet time, enjoy the process, and not get stressed out if something unexpected comes up. If I finish early, then I have extra time to work on details or enjoy the rest.

And slut has never had a positive meaning.

Am I the only one here that likes sl... promiscuous women??

He looked lost and overwhelmed by the discussion that his family in the car was having.

I saw one in person for the first time yesterday. I didn't think it was possible, but it is even uglier in person. I had to look at the driver to see what kind of person would buy that and to see if he felt shameful.

You're welcome, and good luck 😊

I was feeling a bit uncomfortable with asking about this topic because I was worried that I would inadvertently be offensive somehow, so I typed my actual verbal stim into the post. Making weird noises when I'm overwhelmed is a way for me to get the energy out sometimes.

"Perfectionism is shame leaving the body." - The Daily Llama

But seriously, I think the majority of perfectionism is rooted in childhood shame. That comes from family that was overly critical, so we attempted to address it by being perfect. Maybe try messing things up in a safe manner on purpose to behaviorally teach yourself that it's okay to make mistakes.

That's a tough one. Sorry for whatever strated you down that path It can be mentally exhausting and isolating. I hope you figure a way out of it.