FriendOfElphaba

I’d totally be down for a funeral march by Jidenna https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=H_AQFnqMY3E&pp=ygUVaGFpbCB0byB0aGUgY2hpZWYgcmFw

However, I want my inscription to be God’s Final Message to His Creation:

“We apologise for the inconvenience.”

Oh, fuck these companies.

I really hope their employees push back on this bullshit.

Not to say that it’s not good to self-reflect and improve, and not to say that there’s nothing you can improve, but there might be other factors at play.

I don’t have the numbers to hand, but going off of my own experience and my memory, younger people are far more likely to leave a job than older people. You can try to find the stats - I’m sure they vary by country, for instance, but I changed jobs relatively often early in my career. As my career progressed (and changed from industry to industry), I tended to stay longer.

Basically, what you want to do is establish the baseline. Is it a you thing, is it a company thing, an industry thing, or just the natural process? It might be a mix, but until you know what you’re dealing with, it’s going to be hard to fix it.

It’s 0-255 when you’re indexing like that. 11111111b = 255.

This is my position, too. I’m pretty sensitive to social homophobia and transphobia, and this headline, to me, is calling out Bobo and not her boyfriend (although I would question his taste). Now admittedly, you’d have to know who Bobo is in order to get that. If it was about AIC’s boyfriend owning a gay bar, that’d literally be a different story. However, I don’t think you can squeeze too much context into a headline without using a queerty or the root style headline like “Fame-hungry homophobe Boebert caught publicly masturbating gay bar owner in children’s musical!”

Honestly, I’m never sure how much of their crap is performative and how much is serious, but honestly even the serious stuff is actually performative.

I have a question for my Canadian sisters, brothers, and others.

How much of this shit is actually organic to Canadian culture, and how much creeps in because the assholes there see what the assholes in the US are exploiting and decide to give it a try there?

Perchance programming with pointers has plunged as a percentage of programmers.

But thank you. I was hoping someone would notice that.

When you’ve eaten more than 50% of the hamburger, do you claim to have eaten one, or do you claim zero? Are you useing standard founding or are you using floor()?

This.

One of the reasons indexing starts at zero is because back when we used to use pointers and memory addresses, the first byte(s) of an array were at the address where the array was stored. Let’s say it is at 1234. If it was an array of bytes, the first data element was at 1234, or 1234 + 0. The second element would be at 1235, or 1234 + 1. So the first element is at location 0 and the second at location 1, where the index is actually just an offset from the base address. There may be other/better reasons, but that’s what I was taught back in the 90s.

Counting always starts at 1 (if we’re only using integers). You don’t eat a hamburger and say you ate zero hamburgers.

I completely agree. There should have been a backlash, and there needs to be one in the future.

The Dodgers disinviting the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence brought a backlash that made them re-invite them. Dropping them because some politician in Florida thought it was offensive and the right wing tried to turn it into a thing was wrong and it was a terrible look. It was exactly what those in the community most complain about with regard to rainbow washing - that corporations (at least some of them) are fair weather friends. I have to give credit to Disney for going hard on that number, and the mouthbreathers are never going to come after Apple or Google because those are companies that have roots in place.

We need to hit back hard when they go after Target or Bud. We need to take it seriously because they take it seriously, and they know that getting Target to pull rainbow tee shirts is the thin end of the wedge in making LGBT something people should be ashamed of. We have to fight, not because rainbow wear at Target is important, but because LGBT rights are important.

The only place I’ll generally draw the line these days is with the Log Cabin crowd. I’ve never personally known an LCR who was active in the rights movement. The few that I know wore-Trump have become very quiet about it, or else we’ve simply stopped speaking. Those guys (and in my social circle they’re all guys) can fuck off.

Hey! Welcome, and congratulations for making this post. It can be really tough, even given the anonymity of the internet. It can be tough just recognizing your own truth and feelings.

I’ve been involved with the LGBT rights movement since we called it gay liberation, and I marched with ACT UP to get the government to research AIDS. I remember those dark days, and I remember everything we went through to get to where we are. I got bashed multiple times, a couple of times very badly. I got bashed for being queer even before I knew who I was.

We’ve made an incredible amount of progress. We’ve gone from actors being terrified of being outed to queer media being embraced by all major content producers. We went from being shamed into invisibility to police departments and defense contractors wanting to march in Pride. We went from something like 3% of the silent generation admitting to being LGBT to survey takers to about 20% of Gen Z, if I’m remembering that stat properly.

At the same time, and as you well know, we are now the target. Again. The republicans, with absolutely nothing else they can use to appeal to people, have gone full Anita Bryant. The violence is ramping up, and the laws are being passed. Fortunately, they’re being fought in court with some success, but there have been setbacks. I expect to see a negative turn in public sentiment, although it’s still on our side.

First things first - be careful. Be less worried about genocide in the US and more worried about Bubba in his roll coal pickup. Be really careful about who you date, but even be careful about who you talk to. I’m cis, and I’m not going to speak over the trans community, but there’s going to be a number of things you have to consider including work and your social circles if you’re not out yet.

Second, though, is that you have to be your authentic self. Rejection and depression kill far more queer folks than homophobes and transphobes do, especially via substance use and bad reactions to life circumstances. Get in touch with the community, whatever it is where you are. You need to be able to talk to people who have been there and done that, as well as people currently dealing with it. You can even decide to accept the potential bitchiness and hop on grindr to find people just to connect to your local community.

If you’re in a dangerous part of the country and you have the ability to move, know that most if not all of the major cities have large and vibrant communities. Obviously, there’s NYC, LA, the Bay Area, and Chicago. If that’s not your speed, try checking out college towns in blue states. I don’t recommend places like Austin these days, because the “blue city in a red state” strategy is no longer viable at this stage of the culture wars. Also weird little towns like New Hope, PA.

Also, watch and read queer media. Shows like We’re Here are deliberately made to give people a sense of confidence and self-empowerment. There’s probably thousands of hours of movies and TV that can help you find and embrace your voice. If you’re afraid of someone seeing your history, try using an account from a friend you’re out to, or get your own subscription.

Find your people, find your heart, be careful, but be yourself.

To me, that’s like the people who complain that gang-related shootings count as gun crimes. Not everything has to be Columbine/Las Vegas/Sandy Hook/Virginia Tech… (too many to list, honestly too many to keep track of, and I read the news daily. They’re all symptoms of the gun problem in the US. A lot of fun crimes are done by criminals? What a shock! But they have drug dealers and gang members in other countries, and we don’t see the levels of gun violence we do in the US. America is literally off the charts when they do international studies.

A shooting at a school is a shooting at a school, period. I can’t think of anyone who would defend calling it anything else. It doesn’t matter if it’s two kids fighting over who gets to sell drugs or just someone who doesn’t like Mondays.