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I definitely saw several comments that strike me as political, which is exactly my point, everyone has a different definition.

When every aspect of your life is affected by politics, everything is political.

100%

Internet by the people, and for the people, truly.

The problem is politics impacts everything and the word "political" means different things to different people.

To some, talking about being gay is political, even though to people who are in that community, it's literally just talking about their lives.

If you allow wolves and sheep into a space, that is a wolves-only space.

(For context, I agree with you.)

Sure, if you think of it as purely semantic, or a zero sum game with no nuance, but it's not.

Gotta be intolerant of those being needlessly cruel to those just trying to live their lives, and gotta be tolerant of those just trying to live their lives that don't affect you, even if you find it cringey.

I've noticed most discussions i have here end with a LOT less anger and a LOT more learning and that makes me happy.

I completely agree, while rape is technically what happens in those situations, the word seems to hold more weight than the action (in those specific situations where it's more a result of clumsy socialization and lack of communication).

Like, by the very semantic technical definition, I've been raped, but since there was no power dynamic and since there was no malicious intent, I do not call it that because it doesn't feel accurate. I am not traumatized.

I'd say the best way to move forward is to socialize children with the understanding of what consent is, and raising them with the autonomy we expect for ourselves. Basically if we want children to grow up with empathy and respecting the autonomy of others, we need to treat them with empathy and respect their autonomy.

Basically how can we expect people to follow rules like "get consent before doing anything" if we don't have a consensus on what "consent" is?

I have to say personally I surround myself with wonderful and kind men so it makes sense that I've never met someone in real life who so adamantly hates all of them.

I understand being wary of men for statistical reasons, for example I won't get into a situation where I'm in a room alone with a man I don't know well, but that's not to say I assume every man I meet is a rapist.

Hell, hot take incoming (this one is controversial): we can even acknowledge that a lot of men have raped people without knowing it for many years because of the way they were socialized with media that encouraged pestering for sexual attention. A lot of men I know are guilty of this but I think it's important that that can be redeemable if they recognize that it happened and have since changed their behaviour. This seems to be an extremely common experience and I wouldn't go as far as to call them rapists because that was not their intention and they are usually horrified when they realize it.

Sorry for the tangent, I do feel like this isn't talked about enough.

Can't say I've ever come across one of those

I just like lemmy more, I deleted my 13 year old reddit account

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TERFs maybe?