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[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago

Ya, we see so many lib men drowning in pussy, and hot vapid women in no way voted for this.....

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I am actually going to be reentering the dating game after a little over 10 years. I sometimes wonder 'am i still attractive ' but then I remember this...

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago

I'm discovering that it isn't really "am I attractive?" It's " I feel attractive."

Like I'm down 100lbs, been pumping my protein and weights, and I got muscle definition where I've never noticed muscle definition before.

Clothes that fit, glasses I feel comfortable in. I don't really want to "date" because I'm so much happier with impressing myself than trying to impress someone else.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

not to be sapphic but that type is women

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 days ago

Besides the stupidity of this post, you guys do realize that male loneliness is, in part, just how we organize as primates, right?

[–] [email protected] 118 points 1 week ago

I wish this was accurate. There would be a lot less fascists.

[–] [email protected] 94 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (7 children)

This is absolutely a major contributing factor, but there's more to it than this. Everybody is lonely, pretty much regardless of gender. This issue hurts everyone.

And it is also caused in part because of how fucked up we've designed our society. It's nearly impossible to make friends as an adult because

  • we're all working too much to have the free time for it
  • there are (effectively) no third places where you can hang out with the expectation to meet people without the expectation of spending money
  • to get anywhere you generally need a car, highways and roads divide and spread everything which makes walking or biking difficult
  • social media is run for profit, not for the sake of actually connecting people
  • these above issues feed into the issue OP is pointing out. If you are lonely and your life isn't going too well, then you're gonna seek answers for this complicated issue. And fascists are all too willing to take advantage and provide simple answers. It then turns into a self feeding cycle.

I'm sure there's a bunch of other reasons too, but those are the ones of the top of my sleep deprived head. Even if all the above awful values men have disappeared, the above problems would still need to be fixed.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

There are loads of area’s where you can get around without a car, which increases area’s to be outside and meet others.

For a lot of people including me it is a choice to use the car as much as we do.

[–] timbuck2themoon 1 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Very, very dependent on where you are. You're on feddit.nl so I'll assume you live in the Nederlands. For... Most of the US, going without a car is either not really doable or you will absolutely miss out on going lots of places.

Really wish that wasn't the case but alas.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago (5 children)

I'm curious if women do have as much of a problem finding a date, and why the heck don't they find the men with issues finding a date?

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