Think the best advice is that when you talk to a woman in public you should have a reason besides her being a woman in public. Like if a man approached me because he thought my shirt looked cool or he saw me reading a book he liked that's a fine bit of casual conversation. If he just point blank asked if I had a boyfriend as if that's the only reason a woman wouldn't want to date a random man she knows nothing about I'd tell him that was none of his business.
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Also, she should be able to remove herself from the conversation if she wants to. If she's at work then she can't do that, for example, but if you're at a public park then she can just walk off. At least that's how I think of it. Obviously I don't ever want to make someone feel like they have to if I'm just trying to chat, but the point is if they have the option then it should be way less likely to wind up that way
I like to talk to a room. i.e. i watch social cues to find an "in" then i try to start a public conversation?
I'll make idle conversation with anyone. Some people are down some aren't. I'm rarely trying for a date or romance. I just see where the conversation goes, sometimes to a date or romance.
If you don't try you won't get, I'm pretty direct but I have friends who are way way worse than I am.
I generally don't try unless I get at least a smile and/or eye contact held in my direction but I do think most women like to know if they looking attractive even if they aren't interested.
Anyone who takes offense over expressing an interest would have been horrible to date anyway in my opinion.
Basically, you're right and thank you for acting that way. Your parents are wrong.
This could depend where you are from. I'm from France and a bit of chit-chat with a stranger is not a bad thing to me. But if a male stranger try a bit too hard to stir up a conversation, I would feel ackward, mostly because I'll "fear" they are trying to hit on me, which is not okay for a stranger to do out of nowhere.
But at the same time if you try to make friend with more women, maybe one day, you'll find a partner in one of them. If you genuinly try to make connection with a woman in a non-sexual and non-romantical way and after sometime, you feel like having another kind of relation, it is totally different and not creepy at all.
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You are right, women are not into bots.