The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Admirable-Emotion77 on 2025-02-20 18:54:48.
I (20f) had a friend (19f) that was apart of our friend-group four of us since freshman year of high school.
The one friend we'll call her Cindy; during our senior year she met a guy we'll call him Josh (then 20 now 22); we all knew he was a creep right away (for example, he wouldn't let her hang out with us or any other friends unless he could come too, and she felt sorry for him because he didn't have any), but he would compulsively check us all out, be hyperactive like a young child, something was seriously mentally off with him but she was in love and refused to leave him.
We told her we didn't want him hanging out with us anymore because he made us uncomfortable so she stopped hanging out with us, she wasn't "allowed" unless he could come too. She only did a few times when he went on a trip with his family (that was her "loophole" I guess).
She went to college about 3 hours away, I go to local community college, one works for her family business and other friend went to cosmetology school nearby. So we all stayed in town.
She finally "saw the light" and broke up with him, he doesn't have a driver's license (she would come home every weekend to see him) so she's safe three hours away he can't get to her, all she has to do is block him or change her number and block on social media. Were stuck here in same town with him, he was harassing her all she had to do was block him so he started harassing us to try and get her to talk to him.
We just ignored him but he literally showed up at the cosmetology school of my one friend (her former friend) because we were ignoring his messages, he wanted her to talk to Cindy on his behalf and encourage her to take him back.
I got in contact with Cindy told her what happened and was said she needs to deal with this; she brought this miscreant into our lives and needs to fix this. She said she "cannot and will not be held responsible for his actions, and will not speak to him under and circumstances and what he did wasn't her fault, but we have her blessing to block him or contact the authorities or do what we gotta do."
It's not so simple; police are useless where we are they don't care about anything plus the one friend who works for family business her family are undocumented immigrants so were afraid something could happen to her family if we contact the police.
AITA for expecting Cindy to deal with him?