When you ask them out, they say no.
this post was submitted on 16 Feb 2025
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She puts out that restraining order on you.
Surely sheβs just playing hard to get.
Thatβs what every 80s romcom taught me.
IDK. She seems to want to see you again in front of a judge, just like a civil union. Maybe she just wants a surprise marriage. Makes sense because you go to all the same places, use the same toothbrush, and sometimes share a bedroom.
Everytime I walk into the room she grabs the nearest stranger and starts making out with them. My buddy said it's because she can't even bear to have a conversation with me but I'm pretty sure it's just because the sight of me turns her on that much.
Time to top-up your EQ, mate.
"Every time I walk into a room she gets so turned on and grabs the nearest stranger and starts making out with them."
When you keep making efforts to talk to them and they don't pursue the conversation.
In my experience, if they say they aren't interested in you it usually means they aren't interested in you.
They want to spend $150 going out to eat when we could get 3 frozen pizzas and 30 beers for a bang date in the basement.
Man I used to love basement dates with strangers.
one is a keeper, other is not
Whatβs soccer have to do with any of this?
Bear maceβ¦ wasp sprayβ¦
When they pass you in the hall at work, it's like you are invisible to them. Never any eye contact or acknowledgement that you exist, except for them not actually walking right into you.
I had a coworker who did this to me (and a fair amount of other people at work). She was young and pretty and had this approach to any guys a fair amount older than her. I wasn't trying to date her or even interact with her in any personal way...she just seemed to preemptively turn on her 'you are invisible' field to the many people she was not interested in. It was a bit odd, but effective.
I suspect that it was a defense mechanism due to her experience of many older men trying to hit on her. Better not to even open the door.
The pepper spray and screaming usually are a good hint that they may not be interested.
It's is so hard to meet someone while backpacking on a Friday night.
Hey I say it is still not clear, maybe they were excited to see you but the pepper spray went off accidentally /s
Maybe she's just american and being impolite
I thought she might have mistaken me for a bear and got spooked by my grunting outside her tent. I was just trying to see through the ridge vents to see what book she was reading so I had something to talk about and break the ice.
Easiest way to figure this out is to analyze your own behavior when interacting with people you're not interested in.
Short responses like "yeah" or "I'm good" with our any substance or depth, when it's over a extended period of time. Sometimes people do this because there overwhelmed or other things but when it's this all the time, then its a problem
When they keep making/having excuses why they are unavailable
The sneer thrown at you before you even speak
They're not gay, but they'll learn.