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The truth is women can be just as dangerous as men.
Yes, they can be just as dangerous, and crimes by women are often portrayed as "not as bad" or entirely swept under the carpet.
Society has to stop thinking women are not as dangerous.
Well, here I have to disagree. Women on average are not as dangerous. Testosterone is a hell of a drug.
Which doesn't mean that men should not be allowed to feel fear. But I do expect that adults would face their fears and try to control them.
Women on average are not as dangerous.
Yes, women are less physically dangerous. I was thinking women can be dangerous in non-violent ways. For example, falsely accusing a man of rape.
True.
I don't see people in society acting as though women have no potential for violence and are not dangerous, merely that the average woman is less dangerous than the average man: a fact that is held up by statistics.
Fear is a normal emotion though and you're allowed to feel fear. What you're not allowed to do is let fear become phobia. If men scare you so much you can't go outside: see a therapist. You're unreasonable at that point. If women scare you so much that you are afraid of even seeing them: go see a therapist. Fear has become phobia and phobias are a dysfunction.
Anxiety and concern are normal but nobody should be supported or encouraged to feed those anxieties and fears to an unreasonable degree.
The average women is less dangerous than the average man when you take weapons and proxy violence out of the picture
How convenient that you do, as well.
90% of homicide and 80% of violent crime.
Even though women have weapons too, they're not statistically as dangerous.
I'm not talking about physical differences. I'm talking statistical differences.
As such that affects perception.
You and I might both know that we're not dangers but until all the other men do better we're statistically and perceptually in the higher risk category.
Most men do better. We would do well to avoid generalizing. That is part of the problem here.
So why do I have only see the "therapy" suggestion on mens' posts, while women get unending support?
Because women need support and men just need to get their shit together of course.
It is men's fault that they have any stress in their lives and therefore must get therapy to avoid becoming the violent monsters that they inherently are. Women are just observing reality and therefore need to be consoled.
Note: I am blaming patriarchy and society's double standards.
Confirmation bias is a helluva drug
There are plenty of posts telling women they're delusional and they're imagining things. Plenty telling them to seek help. You don't remember them because they don't offend you.
On my end of confirmation bias: I've seen plenty of men express vulnerability and get support and compassion.
Anecdotes are not data.
I’ve seen plenty of men express vulnerability and get support and compassion.
Where?
I just think it was wrong of the commenter from nothowgirlswork to ridicule that guy. I also read a statistic today which said 49% of domestic violence victims are men.