Ask Lemmy

Judging people for how those people spend their money.

Hear me out, poverty and wealth inequality is a systemic societal issue, and just like one person recycling plastic bottles isn’t going to solve pollution or global warming, just like that one person doing charity or whatever isn’t going to solve systemic wealth inequality.

Tax wealthier people at higher rates, but don’t judge someone for getting a gold toilet after they’ve paid their fair share to society.

Life is all bullshit and made up anyway, and if someone’s self actualization involves getting a gold toilet, then who am I to say no? Not everyone wants a gold toilet, and no one should try to get one by ruining someone else’s life. If your money is ethically sourced, and you’ve paid your taxes, get two gold toilets, who cares.

How do people willingly confront their most traumatic experience again and again?

Eating bugs.

people that have more money than they could ever spend trying to accumulate more money

There's a lot of human behavior I don't understand. Used to make me feel like an alien as a kid.

Like the super unhealthy parasocial relationships people think they have with famous people, and more appalling is the way the media feeds right into it. People acting like it's normal to obsess over details about celebrities personal lives is very weird to me.

I don't understand cheating... just break up and then you can fuck who you want. Why does deceiving someone and breaking their trust have to be a part of it? Why is that necessary?

I don't understand how you can be the richest elongated muskrat in the world, so rich you just doubled your wealth, and not do anything to help people who need it. I don't know how he can live with himself. And what I really don't get is that he clearly wants the world to see him as some sort of important amazing brilliant person. So why not do the thing. DO THE THING AND HELP YOU SELFISH FUCK

Don't even get me started with bigotry. It just does not make sense. Why does someone's skin pigment effect people so drastically? Why does the gender or sexual orientation of strangers matter? People need to focus on themselves and mind their business. If someone would like to make minding your business the new fad of 2025 I'm here for it.

Littering is one of those things I struggle the most to understand.

I can somewhat grasp it in extreme cases, like when you’re dealing with something really dirty and there’s nowhere to put it. But I’m talking about casual littering - things like throwing candy wrappers on the ground when you could just as easily put them in your pocket.

I don’t think anyone sees themselves as a bad person. Even when we engage in bad behavior, we usually have some story we tell ourselves to justify it. But I can’t put myself in the mindset of someone who casually throws trash on the ground for someone else to clean up. It’s kind of like walking around and cussing at random people - it just doesn’t make any sense. You have to know that you're the problem.

Celebrity gossip. I'm just not interested in who married who, who's wearing what, who's doing who.

And reality TV, but if ratings are any indication, I'm the weird one on that.

Going to church by choice. That shit is boring.

I've never understood why everyone has their phone out recording at large public events. Surely someone is going to post a video of the event and you don't need to be recording it

Feeling some kind of national pride. You didn’t choose to be born where you were born. Borders change and move, etc. The place my grandparents were born in has changed countries at least 3 times since then.

Going to concerts. It's too loud and it's crowded, I just don't see the appeal.

And while we're at it, dancing. It's unnatural, I tell you!

The need some people have to be part of a group.

I've been "alone" for such a long time that it probably affects how I see things like this, but I just don't get the need some people have. I'm thinking from things like worshipping a politician just to be part of a group to more simple things like needing to insert yourself into a group at work just to be "one of the guys." I've always just done my own thing and never considered myself part of anything, whether friend groups, work "cliques," or whatever. If it was "Tim, Tom, and Tina" I could be friends with all of them, but I never felt like I needed to be, or even ever was part of "their" group. I just come and go as the situation arises.

Some things like politics I obviously fall into one category or another based on my beliefs, but I don't conform or alter my beliefs just to maintain a position within that group.

Hmmm I think I will go with "fandom", or being a fan of something. Like, I enjoy concepts. But there's no universe or product or franchise or sports team or whatever in particular I would consider myself a fan of.

edit hope this counts as behavior lol

How people can be hateful to others because of what their skin colour is, what their sex is, or because they have a disability. In the grand scheme of things our lives are short, so why not spend that time on loving people rather than hating them for things beyond their control which harms no one?

Sport hooligans

Shitting on weaker people. I mean I kinda do get it, because I had the instinct when I was little. But I very quickly got taught respect by people who refused to be bullied by me.

I guess what I don’t get is … how can people still be doing that as an adult? Have they literally never had someone stand up to them before? Or are they addicted to it, unable to control themselves?

I had the impulse toward evil, but it got beaten out of me really young. It really didn’t take much — just one kid being like “no I’m not doing that”.