No. Not in my experience anyway. That said, furries are a whole different breed. Furries love sharing physical intimacy. Cuddle piles in the furry community are a real thing.
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I think it's interesting that you are comparing "men" and "girls" as opposed to either boys and girls or men and women.
No judgement. Just thought that was interesting.
Good thing you're not judging. If it was the passive aggressive criticism it looks like on the surface, it might contribute to this very topic of people feeling safer keeping to themselves than speaking freely and saying the wrong words.
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They all mean the same thing basically
They're not the same thing, though. If you use infantilizing language with people of one sex until they're 40, yeah, people are going to notice that and think it's weird. I used to have a ton of unexamined behaviors like that before I worked on it a fair amount, and yeah, I was pretty lonely back when...
I don't think most people care. Granted, maybe it's the dysphoria speaking, but I love it when someone calls me "girl" and I'm 30. None of the people I know care. If anything it feels more familiar to call someone a girl or a boy than a man or a woman. The latter two feel very "official", while the former feel casual.
Also I've absolutely heard girls call a group of men, "boys". Like, one of the white suburban mom stereotypes is to call her husband and his friends, "the boys". Like, "hey honey, how was hanging out with the boys" or "oh, he's off with the boys doing who knows what".
I share your sentiment, whenever one of my aunts calls me a '"good-looking boy," my mid-30s heart warms up.
In addition, we will all mature only when we realise that we never stop being children in one way or another. Plus why would anyone want to give that up? One of the few nuggets of genuine joy and curiosity that's still left for us to own.
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Girlfriends have naked bubble make out pillow fights. Guys do not.
You are going to the wrong parties
Can confirm. There are a few web sites that have video evidence. Google it, and thank me later.
I think your experience is extremely typical.
Not really. It's been 70/30. I have some male friends and there pretty intimate. Always doing things like slapping my butt and giving me sexual compliments/wolf whistling at me. At first it was pretty awkward then I thought to myself "what's the problem?" There only complimenting you and there not exactly wrongπ.
But now I don't know if there just being friendly or if there flirting with me. I've had women say similar things to me before.
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yes, we're not all incels and taters and fundamentalist wannabe strong men
There are no universal truths about the behavior of "men" and "women" (nor other gender identities)
However, I believe men (at least in the US) are often socialized to more emotionally closed off. Like the only emotion allowed is anger. Other emotions are seen as weak or femme (which are viewed as the same)
*their
"there friends" would be like... friends that are somewhere else. As opposed to "here friends", I guess
I tell my boys I love them. Kisses on the forehead before we part too.