I don't care so much about things. I need my friends.
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Well, you see, I fill my house with things I like, and people I love, so being there is enjoyable.
I suppose if your house is full of things you hate and people you dislike, then you would want to leave.
Yup. Same same. That's where my stuff is, I don't need anything or anyone else.
How do people go out and do stuff ALL day?
Coffe and alcohol.
Strangely strong reactions here to someone suggesting that going outside might be healthy. There's a reason why "touch grass" exists as a phrase.
SHUT UP YOU CANT MAKE ME
The post did not make any positive encouragement, make a case for mental health, or even make a suggestion. It came in as an accusation that anyone who chooses to live that way is abnormal. By definition it was a microaggression, so triggered people are reflex responding.
Frankly I think that if you feel called out by this post it has more to do with you than the original poster. "How do people not go crazy if they're stuck inside too long" is not a novel sentiment.
I can agree with you about this specific post (without knowing the tone of the question, it could be earnest rather than insulting), but I've always found the "touch grass" saying to be condescending af.
I don't know. It's just not something I stress over.
- Work from home.
- Can wear whatever I want.
- Lots of food and can cook whatever I want.
- A/C temp the way I want it.
- Comfort of my own bathroom and toilet.
- Lots of entertainment options (streaming/TV, laptop/PC, games).
- My hobby is indoors (music).
- Don't have to spend money just to hang around.
Don't have to spend money just to hang around.
Not to mention there are no more third spaces. When we leave our home, besides going to a park or something, you’re expected to pay at almost all establishments you go to. As in, you have to pay rent to use infrastructure you don’t own, so why not just stay at home since you’ve already paid for using that.
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Having seen how so called extroverts where seemingly going insane 4 years ago, I at this point assume they don't like their own home for some reason
I was one of those extroverted people going absolutely nuts, and I never stopped working. However, my leadership had split us into 2 separate shifts, and so I was seeing the same 5 people every day versus a normally bustling workcenter. I joked to one of my Airmen that I wasnt sure if she was real or a figment of my imagination to keep me company.
I was literally constantly exhausted even though I wasnt allowed to do anything aside from work/home.
It did give me new insight to one of my best friends though, who is an extreme introvert. She lived with me for a brief while in our 20s, and I would get so frustrated when she would come home and immediately disappear into her room, and then Id have to fight her tooth and nail to get her to come hang on the weekends. I really was like "Why tf do you live with me if you obviously dont like me?" I always thought her "Nah Im tired" was just an excuse, and it made me feel really bad about myself.
Now? I definitely understand the difference better, and Im a lot more patient.
Thank you for your detailed insight there
I think it's an issue with entertaining themselves. Extroverts seek entertainment through social interaction while introverts tend to be able to entertain themselves just fine.
Even my introverted friends were getting stir crazy in 2020. By the end of that year I was the only one I knew who was still perfectly content to be snuggled under a blanket putzing around online all day... I mean working from home.
My gamer friends and I had the best of times, we were back to being teenagers
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It was really weird to me too. Like, if you don’t like your home and being by yourself, maybe you’re not a good influence on others.
Imagine having no other thoughts in your head that posting such a stupid question to Twitter monopolizes your executive functioning.
Why go out when you just have to come back home anyway. Save the trip.
That toilet has a warm bidet and the other ones don't or are COLD
Cause when you stay at home, you become comfortable with it and also keep making things better and better. You have full control over your experience so you end up optimizing it.
When you go out to say a coffee shop, that’s optimized for the owner to make the most money.
It really took me the longest time to realise that a huge percentage of people that need to go outside as much as possible do so because they feel unhappy at home ('home' as literal dwelling I mean, they don't know what to do there, aren't happy with or can't be by themselves, don't enjoy their immediate home environment & stuff they have in it, etc).
I enjoy my house, and my things, and use them often. I enjoy my home life. I still feel the need to go out and experience the world beyond my tiny bubble. I get great joy simply out of breaking up my routine, meeting new people, seeing new places, going to local gathering spots. When I am done with all that I also have the benefit of socializing without having a pile of dishes to do either.
Your assessment is right for some people, and you probably have contact with a group that leads to a bias in believing this is what people, generally, who need to do things beyond their house, are like. It is not true for most though. Most people like their homes, and home lives, a lot. They also feel the need to go out and do something other than home life, regularly, in order to be happy, in the long term. Doesn't matter how awesome my house is, doesn't matter how many skills I am working on, or how many hobbies I have, if I don't do something out of the ordinary, on a fairly regular basis, life begins to feel dull, and no amount of improving my home will alleviate that.
Yes, "you people" were my default assumption.
What I said was that only later I found out (well, more like "realised") that there are also a bunch of folk that are miserable in their home environment (like living in a shoebox apartment or a house they just mentally arent able to customise it to their preference).
Yes, there are a lot of people like that. They have psychiatric issues, usually depression. They could just be poor, and don't have the means to make their house, their home, yet. They might be in the stages before drinking themselves to sleep, every night, alone, at home. Most people are not like that though. Novelty is a key element to stimulation, most people need it, this is why they go out, meet new people, go new places, etc., routines are nice until that element is no longer being fulfilled. Then it just becomes a rut.
Most people dont know how to find novelty in old thongs.
And some people cannot form routines.
Home is the best, if you can't stay home and be happy you need to change your home
I play music, games, code , read. Just with music alone I'm already home stuck because of my work schedule. Seriously there is so much in piano technique that with a full time job ur pretty much going straight home and practicing.
Given you care about your hobbies.
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This is a lie.
Otherwise he would have said "here" instead of "there".
All Day?
Those are rookie numbers
IKR. I'm at home at least 30 hours per day.
What do you do in the other 6 hours??
Almost made it a whole week but my stupid wife needs a ride to the craft store
Craft store is fun! Get some stuff to decorate your "command center."
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Got no choice. My dad has developed dementia, and I refuse to put him in a home until he is completely mindless.
I'm scared only because my health benefits ran out two months ago. But don't worry pops, I got you.
i would never leave if i didn't have to eat and make money to eat
Uhhhh because that’s where I live
Spending time with young kids is a big draw to be home
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