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[–] [email protected] 79 points 4 months ago (4 children)

Sounds more like social anxiety than introversion.

Introverts aren’t socially anxious they just recharge their energy by being alone as opposed to extroverts who recharge by being around people.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago

That’s correct. I’m an extrovert with social anxiety. I think I just want to be alone, but then I’m miserable. Ideally, I’d just do everything I need to do with one or two friends.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

There's a massive difference between being an introvert and being a doormat.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago

Depends on how wrong it is. I’m unable to digest pork and will say something if there’s bacon on my food. I don’t like sun dried tomatoes and will happily pick them off.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

As with most things, the more you practice the easier it gets, so I reckon that it takes longer for introverts to grow their social skils, and specifically in the case of awkward social situations, becoming confident that they can deal with it - the anxiety is really just a lack of confidence in one's skills IMHO.

As somebody who in personality tests always tended to score as very introvert, it's quite interesting how the me now in my 50s in social situations is quite a different person from the me back in even my 30s, and I think that what makes the biggest difference by far is general self-confidence which in turn translates into caring far, far less about what most other people think of me (especially strangers), which then reduces the awkwardness of most social situations.

Specifically in this case, two decades ago I would tend to react as per that meme, whilst nowadays I just casually send it back pointing out it's wrong (politelly but firmly), though for example in a restaurant I might actually point out that it's wrong and if it turns out I would have to wait for the correct order still take it if I'm low on time and what I got was something I could just as easilly have ordered since my original choice was mentally pretty much a "pick one because you have to pick one" rather than a firm choice - in other words, I deal with it as I would deal with a junior developer implementing a wrong requirement in a project I was leading: point out the error to avoid a repeat and then find the most effective way to deal with the consequences.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Being an introvert does not mean being socially inept, it just means that you prefer certain types of stimulations. You can be introverted and socially capable at the same time.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

I'm not an introvert, I just got yelled at a lot as a child instead of being hugged and now I have anxiety.

[–] buffysummers 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I'm in this comment and I don't like it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago

Another comment confirmed that it's not introversion, it's social anxiety. 🫠

[–] [email protected] 11 points 4 months ago

True story, I used to do this with a slider order I requested at the gas station every day. When they got it wrong, that was just adding some variety, which was good to me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

Introvert, not to be confused with just a lack of confidence.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago (2 children)

This has nothing to do with beeing an introvert. If you don’t have the courage to return a meal or even talk to someone that is paid to listen to you, get yourself together and see a therapist

[–] [email protected] 18 points 4 months ago

Get out of here extro! I mean, like if you want, haha just kidding

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago

They hate you because you told them the truth.