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[–] [email protected] 81 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Fictional men telling you it's okay to have emotions and struggle is appealing because real men do not typically speak about these values. Boys are constantly surrounded by a maelstrom of toxic masculinity. Anything that helps them cultivate a positive inner voice and healthy self image is fine by me.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago

Honestly have to agree. It's weird, but fine.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I wish they would honestly stop with the Toxic masculinity and gender stereotypes, boys can and should be kind and compassionate and also be taught that self care is important, not be scolded for doing these things. Strange that we live in a world where being a boy who takes care of themselves causes you to get shit for it.

Luckily things seem to be changing for the better in recent times.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not without substantial pushback but we're shifting in the correct direction

And to those that think it only comes from men, I've been in the receiving end of that kind of crap from both men and women in my life.

And to those that need to hear it, sometimes you have to cut your relatives out of your life because of their toxicity. Be they your parents, your grandparents, or even your siblings. It hurts, but you will be happier without them constantly being toxic to you.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

And to those that think it only comes from men, I’ve been in the receiving end of that kind of crap from both men and women in my life.

I've gotten it from both, especially teachers in school. "Riley why are you crying, see this is what I'm telling you, you're clearly not a boy, boys don't cry that much". My school was interesting because they were trying to be ""trans-inclusive"" but ended up pushing toxic gender stereotypes onto people. They also were enbyphobic too (didn't believe in or care about NonBinary gender).

[–] [email protected] 52 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I would be lying if i said i didnt listen to duken nukem inspiring me to shower daily

i would also be lying if i said that it didnt help me shower every day because it absolutely did

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

I'm here to chew bubblegum and shower, and I'm all out of bubblegum.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Showering daily is probably not good for your skin, if you can avoid it :)

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

showering daily is fine, and necessary for a lot of people

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Exactly; if you're scrubbing every inch with lye every day it's not great, but using a relatively gentle soap and cleaning your pits, tits and bits is perfectly fine and helps you maintain some semblance of a social life.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Showering every day is not good for your skin and very likely not necessary if you're not doing physical labour. Washing yourself is a different story.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I cycle to and from work -- if I don't shower, that's not hugely kind to my colleagues!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

if you're not doing physical labour

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Believe it or not everyone has a smell and for some it can be quite strong without physical labor.

Not to mention weather can play a big factor as well.

Or due to allergies during allergy season.

There's many reasons to shower everyday.

And I'm not sure what you mean by making a difference between showering and washing. They're interchangeable terms given the context.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

That's so mean :(

[–] [email protected] 42 points 1 year ago (1 children)

mental health is not a joke friends, not even when men and boys are the butt of your funny 😌😌

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Haha you said butt 😌🤓

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 year ago

No, I am not. Thanks for asking Kutielee

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Maater chief says destroy the covenant fleet

(Simon says style)