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So i still have depression and im constantly bored, i feel like a loser who cant do anything right. I want to let my creativeness out, make something i can share with the world or family, but im probably dreaming too big. I cant stand being depressed and bored, it stinks, everyone tells me to work out but i lack the motivation to do so.

i usually just watch youtube all day while complaining to family members that have no idea what to do about me.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Whenever I feel this way, which is often, I tinker with my homelab or play music. Oftentimes I don't feel to motivation to, but I know once I start I'll get sucked right in.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Right now I’m trying chess. I absolutely suck at it, but I can play it on demand at any time online and getting better at it. Don’t really play against live opponents often, but rather play bots or solve puzzles mostly. It helps get the mind to think about something else and makes me want to learn due to how bad I was initially. Still bad, just less so.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

My hobbies change with the seasons. Woodworking, tinkering with electronics, amd gaming in the colder months. Biking in the summer months. Anything that requires your undivided attention helps forget about depression.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

but im probably dreaming too big

No you're not. You underestimate yourself. There is not "too big" when it comes to having a hobby. You don't need to prove anything, just do something you enjoy and that makes you feel good about yourself. The difficult part is getting out of the house, not the actual activity. I won't recommend anything specific here because lots of people in this thread have already, and also the activity does not really matter, only that you do something that engages you.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Wow, you're being bombarded with good suggestions. Although I'd like to add an ingredient that helped me with my constant boredom; if you are going to go exploring or hiking, I found going outside to be incredibly dull personally unless I kept my mind occupied.

For me, that was creative writing brainstorming (plot, character development, etc) almost like organized daydreaming. I'd write it all down when I got home. Although I never did make the game given time constants, I had fun thinking of worlds of my own design.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I’ve thrown myself into competitive powerlifting and my bipolar disorder has been stable for like three years. The exercise can be tough but it really levels me out.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Drawing of course 😁! I think it would help to get your emotions out.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

A cat? It forces you to do something useful everyday, which will make you feel good. Maybe a dog is even better, since you'd have to walk it, but a dog is a harsher commitment than a cat. You can't skip a walk with a dog, just because you re having a bad day. A cat however, will be fine for a day of neglect as long as you keep it's bowl full. A cat also enjoys playing outside though, so you could try that as well.

I had a kid, which didn't cure my depression, but it took away all my time. I didn't have time to think about depression anymore, so I kinda forgot about it. Though I wouldn't recommend having a kid for anything besides just wanting to have a kid.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Im sorry but im allergic to alot of things such as cats and dogs for some reason, i wish i could get one but i just cant at the moment.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm super allergic to cats, but it's absolutely worth it. You just have to remember that the hand you pet the cat with can never be the hand you touch your face with lol

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Juggle. You must have 3 similar ball shaped items around the house. There's lots of tutorials online. You get your blood feeling, body moving. Such a nice rush when you finally get that new pattern or trick you were working on.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Whittling is also a good one, low investment and relatively simple.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

For me, it was running and reducing alcohol to very moderate levels. I'm at the point now that I crave a run to clear my mind and lower my stress. I rarely ever feel depressed anymore. Total game changer for me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm positively surprised that I've not seen gym suggestion within 10 comments.

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