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Or, alternatively, what did you do to another person which got you blacklisted from their life?

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

Called me while driving across the country to help keep himself from falling asleep. This was fine with me. I'll have a chat with you while you drive.

Then proceeded to fill me in on everything going on in his life for an hour and ended the call. He never asked how I was or gave me a chance to fill him in on my life since we'd last spoke. I already knew he was self-centered, but I was still in shock when the call ended.

[–] notexecutive 8 points 1 year ago

Just be a toxic person to talk and be around. Horrible really. Constantly felt less-than.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Did the rest of the family not believe she said the things she said or were they fine with it? Calling someone a filthy towel head is pretty unambiguously racist and not in the old timey grandparent way either.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Final year of my college degree a friend of mine asked if he could stay with me. He had been kicked out of a couple other universities and finally begged his way into one where I was currently living.Told him I didn't want drama or partying in my place.

Guy would routinely show up stoned, started getting his parents to bug me about getting him a loan, general disruptive behavior. Lying, telling my gf (now wife) one thing then telling me something different.

Came to a head when I got a call during a night class, he had come home drunk or stoned or whatever and began telling my gf he was thinking about killing himself. Now when my wife was younger she had attempted suicide so this struck a chord with her. I of course raced home and we took him into a hospital to get him some help. He proceeded to tell the doctors something completely different and was sent home with us.

Kicked him out as soon as he found a new place to stay. Haven't seen or talked to him since.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

One of my best friends from childhood ended up on heroin shortly after I moved away with my bf (now husband). We still talked occasionally through FB or Insta, but a few years ago we lost touch, and shortly after that my mom sent me a newspaper article about his arrest. They found CP on his phone and computer.. I refuse to write to him. Despite growing up together. That's a connection I'm glad to cut, no matter the circumstance.

My father and paternal grandmother chose to be homophobic when I (and my cousin) both came out of the closet. "We'll pray for your soul, but you're going to hell." My childhood was bad enough, but to be told that after coming out was the final straw. I haven't spoken to either of them in years. I don't even know if she's alive anymore.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Example 1. (My favorite) During the 2020 election, after Biden took the lead and looked to be the projected winner, "friend" at the time said quite confidently "Let the recount begin!" and then after [Trump] lost, she sent me one word replies. I also found out later she had a cardboard cut out/was taken in front of a picture of Trump. Example 2. (recent) During an acquaintance's birthday she said the hard n word for no reason at all. It wasn't even warranted. Nor was she driving. I set a boundary after that saying, you use that term in front of me again, we will not hang out. I don't hang out with racists.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Nor was she driving.

What's the significance of this? Is it mildly less frowned upon to be horrifically racist if you're driving?

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Only reaches out when they want a hookup for weed, and once they find another source they ghost me. Even though we went to HS together and he says he’s my friend. Fuck that guy

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

My (53m) idiot older brothers (61 and 59 respectively).

The oldest decided to scam me and the middle brother out of our shares of the family farm. It's not a huge amount of money, but the fact he did what he did is enough.

My middle brother informed me, at Thanksgiving 2 years ago, that he was a member of the oath keepers and that essentially he was the new patriarch of the family. All of my political beliefs are bullshit and I had to subscribe to the right wingnut bullshit he adhered to. Military this and guns that. The stupid fuck was in the army for 6 years back in the 80's.

Haven't spoken to either of those assholes in years, nor will I ever again.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Stole money from another friend after inviting them to a party at that friend’s (the victim’s) house

[–] crazyminner 3 points 1 year ago

Two separate people, and it was them being alcoholics.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Did the family not believe she said those things or were they fine with it?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

The persons who aggravate anxiety and depression. But maybe this is not so good sometimes...

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

My friend who was an insurance agent, wanted me to take insurance policy from the company he worked, so he could get a commission.

I said I'm not interested. He sent a video where a truck lost control hit the median of a road then dump all of its load on a car and said it can happen to me.

I said f**k off. That was the last time I contacted him.

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