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Showerthoughts

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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The best ones are thoughts that many people can relate to and they find something funny or interesting in regular stuff.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 7 months ago

I don't think I agree with what you think "time management" skills are.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Isn't it the opposite? If you lack time management skills you need to constantly be aware of the time, while someone else does it without having to, and without needing to spend mental resources on it.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

People with good thyme management skills are well seasoned.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 7 months ago

Uh, no, not really. If you're feeling any kind of anxiety you're doing it wrong. The only time I've ever had to watch the clock is during really, really boring classes and presentations.

Time management has very little to do with what time it is, counter-intuitively. Just like budgeting doesn't really have much to do with the size of your net worth.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I don't think this is true, or at least not true in all cases.

From what I've seen and talked about with friends who have poor time management skills, a big problem is they get distracted and don't stay on task. Thinking about the clock doesn't really enter into it in that case.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Not just the clock on the wall. The one in your head.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

There is no clock in my head.

I'm a little confused what you mean by time management skills, now, too. Can you give an example of a scene that required them, and how it would look for someone with good skills and how it would look for someone with bad skills?

Like, I have a friend coming over around noon today. I need to shower and get dressed before they get here. That takes like half an hour. I might just set an alarm on my phone for like 11:15 so I remember. I'd set it to 11:15 to give myself some extra padding. I know I shouldn't do anything that might take longer than the time available, like go for a long bike ride or start playing a video game that can't be paused.

There's not really any intrusive thoughts here.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

You ever gotten sleepy? That's nature's clock.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

That’s nature’s gas tank

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Have you considered getting evaluated for ADHD? (One of us, one of us!)

[–] [email protected] -1 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I once played Civilization for 3 days straight. I'm not sure I have this.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

It’s pretty common for people with ADHD to be able to play video games for a long time, because games are designed to make the brain pump out dopamine.

Up to you whether to get an assessment, ofc, but time blindness is a really common symptom. Your OP and others’ responses sounded really familiar to me.

Example, I recently had an argument over what a habit is. The other party claimed it’s something you do without thinking about choosing it, like muscle memory. Which I still insist is bullshit because everyone knows a habit is when you feel weird not doing the task, and the urge to avoid the wrong feeling makes you remember the task and outweighs the urge to be lazy. (Apparently this isn’t how it works for normal people?)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

lmao yes dude you have it. fucking civilization for three days of course you have it

[–] EdanGrey 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

You're describing OCD not time management skills

[–] [email protected] -1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

My theory is that to develop time management you have to induce a kind of OCD and we've normalized it in society so we don't recognize this.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Well, to be classified as a disorder a behavioral pattern has to be maladaptive

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Interesting

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Semi-agree. Not time management, but about being late.

My mother always wanted to leave way too early for appointments on the idea that "you never know when you're gonna get a flat tire." I have pretty strong anxiety about being late as a result. I get everywhere ahead of time and feel horrible when I show up late (which almost never happens because of the anxiety to avoid it).

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

I just make sure I arrive early so I don't need to worry