Discussing relationship problems. Some can view it as talking about awkward topics, or can make someone uncomfortable. But, so long as it's done correctly, I think this is a green flag because it means actually tackling problems in the relationship (including real red flags) vs letting them fester and get worse.
this post was submitted on 12 Dec 2023
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You cannot have a healthy, long and deep relationship of any kind if you don't make stuff work that causes problems.
Sure, you can run away every time problems arise, but that won't net you any "decent" relationships in life.
I think a key element in problem-solving problems in relationships is constructive criticism and talking about stuff in a neutral or a positive way.
Yelling accusations while hurting won't do good.
I think a key element in problem-solving problems in relationships is constructive criticism and talking about stuff in a neutral or a positive way.
The same is true for the other end. You want to accept criticism without immediately getting defensive on instinct. Actually think about what they told you and try to find ways to improve. And if you are the partner providing the criticism do not try to immediately propose solutions but describe the problem first. Finding the solution is something to work on together once both are on the same page.
Them being happy for how they are, like myself being happy while larger.