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Kinda burying the lede here. They are all different forms of “questioning their authority”
not wanting to be touched
That was a big one that contributed to my divorce. Even after decades and with the person who was supposed to be my closest relationship, and even after explaining a million times that the worse my autoimmune illness got, the less I wanted to be touched, it was a massive problem.
I still don’t get it, because I’ve never once thought someone else not wanting me to touch them impacted me in any way. I also never feel the need to touch other people. I guess that’s weird.
As: Saying what you mean.
Most of the things in the list above are just circumstances where misunderstandings arise and it's not uncommon for autistic self-care (like withdrawing, not paying attention, etc) to be mistaken for disrespect.
When I was a kid, these misunderstandings sometimes led to me getting beat up. Now that I'm a larger-than-average adult man, the bullying and schoolyard nonsense doesn't happen but the misunderstandings and ensuing anger can take the form of grievances that have a way of turning into career-limiting drama. It' still bullying, it's just done the way adults bully.
These are all deeply frustrating, circumstantially stupid, and they all arise from an ignorant mistake in which me being inattentive or low on social energy or just having a hard time turns into them 'feeling disrespected'.
It can be exhausting when people take offense when none was honestly on offer- and the resulting dominance nonsense that sometimes ensues when they're petty about it has me a little convinced that too many adult people out there really don't distinguish between respect and submission to their weird dominance games
If the term "allistic" offends you: grow up, it's a new word. Is learning a new word scary? Cis isn't offensive. Allistic isn't offensive. If you become insecure because a previously unnamed characteristic or condition or yours suddenly receives a name that doesn't have implicit negative connotations, you should go work on whatever problem you have.
If the term "allistic" offends you: grow up, it's a new word. Is learning a new word scary?
I have no particular opinion on the term "allistic," but what happened to the maxime that each group should get the final say on the terminology applied to that specific group?
Now we're saying to a specific group "hey, from now on we'll call you all this new term and you all can just shut up and deal with it, because you don't get a say?"
Seems like contradicting messages.
Allistics wouldn't have come up with a term to categorize themselves, because they already see themselves as "the normal" that doesn't need to be categorized. Save that, I'm not against them choosing a different word - but it would still be chosen by one or a few of them for an unchoosing vast majority.
Holy shit this thread is cruel. I scrolled for way too long and started thinking I was pages deep into some general-interest place on Reddit. Nope, it's c/Autism. Kinda the last place I'd expect to be okay with piles of hateful NTs coming in to point and laugh and talk trash at us.
Also, very agree regarding the terminology-whining. Kinda hard to believe every term non-minority sorts find out about gets screamed about, claiming it's a slur. Equality feeling like oppression, I guess. Only "those people" get words; everyone else is just "normal." Grr.
J dont habe anything against the termb and ive never Seen anyone bitch about it to me it seems like you are just looking for an argument