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That was a big one that contributed to my divorce. Even after decades and with the person who was supposed to be my closest relationship, and even after explaining a million times that the worse my autoimmune illness got, the less I wanted to be touched, it was a massive problem.
I still don’t get it, because I’ve never once thought someone else not wanting me to touch them impacted me in any way. I also never feel the need to touch other people. I guess that’s weird.
Touch is a form of intimacy, one your partner has been severely deprived of. As a heavily tactile person, partner that doesn't want to be touched would be a massive showstopper for me.
Sad it turned out this way, but great if you'll find a partner that respects this boundaries more, or, better yet, doesn't want to touch you either.
There's a huge difference between "someone else" and your life partner.