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[–] [email protected] 19 points 9 months ago (3 children)

I think people don't realize just how expensive and difficult adoption is. My ex wife and I looked into it when we were having fertility trouble. Turns out, five rounds of IVF would have been cheaper than adoption. People got used to the idea that adoption is cheap in the 80s and 90s when China, Korea, and a lot of the Eastern European states had an excess of unwanted babies. That is no longer the case and babies are very hard to come by.

[–] ironhydroxide 9 points 9 months ago (1 children)

So if babies are hard to come by, are the older orphans hard to come by as well? Or is it just that baby adoption is the preference?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Yeah that's what makes it so expensive. If you're willing to adopt an older kid it's still pricey but not the same.

[–] ironhydroxide 2 points 9 months ago

Not sure I understand. So expensive because babies are more preferred? Or are babies not that much preferred and there's not actually that many kids in foster care/orphaned?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Still 65,000 kids waiting to be adopted in the US alone. On average.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (3 children)

Like, how expensive? Isn't delivering a baby in a hospital like 10k? Is it really more difficult and expensive than 9 months of pregnancy?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 months ago

Most aren't babies, though, and lots have been through a lot. Having a baby is already a huge commitment; you can't fault people for not wanting to take on a kid with a history of trauma or a significant disability. That's a tall order and the people who do it are saints.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago (1 children)

If you have insurance, it's often not that expensive to actually have a baby. IVF is expensive though, and only sometimes covered by insurance. We were looking at $25k for one round of IVF and $5k for each subsequent round, if those were necessary. Adoption was around $50k from what I remember.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

Some states require IVF coverage by medical insurance. With those prices, it may actually be cheaper in certain circumstances to move.