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There are issues that have been on my mind for a few days, and I wanted to talk about them with you.

Downvotes

As you may notice, downvotes have been completely off for the last few days. I did this because I couldn't resist the pressure of some friends :/ I still don't know what to do about this. The majority of members probably want it to be completely open. As mods, posters and admins; some think it should be closed, some think it should be restricted (I guess).

I guess there is no solution that makes everyone happy. I realized I don't have admin skills in stressful situations, I'm a fucking stupid lol :D I miss @gabe so much.

lemmyposter212 suggested "fuzzy votes" or something that can work for us too. I think I'll just ghost this issue for a while.

Donations

As you know, all our donation accounts have been closed. Since it was my first time opening a site in the NSFW area, I had no experience. I reviewed some adult donation sites but most of them were shady. Honestly I couldn't trust them.

There are only coins now. But I guess most people don't want to deal with coins. It is because I didn't get any donations about 4 months now :D Those sent from Github Sponsor or Patreon were also returned to donators as well. I received $200-ish donations so far.

We are currently the 2nd largest instance in Lemmy. After lemmy.world, we're bigger than lemmy.ml and lemm.ee! I don't think it will work this way anymore. On an annual basis, I need to spend a month's salary for Lemmy NSFW.

Does anyone have an idea to solve this problem?

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 9 months ago (3 children)

We had that. They removed our account and refunded all donations :/

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Open Collective: https://opencollective.com/

Donor box: https://donorbox.org/

Liberapay: https://liberapay.com/about/faq#fees

Anedot: https://www.anedot.com/pricing - 4% +30c.

Buy me a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/ - membership option. 5% transaction fee.

Streamlabs: Louis Rossmann is using it https://streamlabs.com/louisrossmann/tip

ko-fi: Used by db0 piracy lemmy instance https://ko-fi.com/db0

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

Almost all of them have a NSFW banish in their TOS or have previously applied and not been accepted. I'm trying to apply some fiscal hosts on Open Collective tho.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Unfortunately they're only accepting real models. Since I am a man, I do not believe that I will have many subscribers lol :D

[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I mean you would still have to register and verify, but its a way for people to get subscriptions payments to you.

I'm just trying to think outside of the box, but it seems like a viable strategy,

[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I try to be as anonymous as possible. Therefore, it is not possible to apply to Onlyfans as a legal entity or anonymous person unfortunately :/

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Well that is an additional constraint.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 9 months ago (1 children)

As someone who doesn't work in the NSFW field, I would like to keep my professional career away from an NSFW site TBH.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

Sure. Its just not a constraint that you had previously mentioned, and I get it, but it does add a pretty significant degree of additional complexity.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

So I don't spend time in the NSFW space - but some quick googling leads me to think that only fans is ok with AI provided you are over 18 and your not doing deep fakes.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

It sounds like cryptocurrency is the best solution here, unless anyone can vet a payment intermediary that’s safe and accepts transactions for NSFW stuff. And then of course has great security and can protect you from being doxxed.

I haven’t been to your instance but I think you can try posting official Monero and Bitcoin addresses and directing users there with a pinned post, and maybe something in your sidebar - I’m on mobile so not sure if you already have something like that. Might be worth even creating a Vanity BTC address to increase the legitimacy - something like 1LEMMYxyzetc. There’s a lot of people out there that believe in the practicality of certain crypto coins, so I think XMR and BTC are your best bet. They may be willing to help if they come to your instance all the time.