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What small piece of advice you would like to give that isn't heard enough ? (lemmy.world)

submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Computer related:

Don't be your family computer savy guy, you just found yourself a bunch payless jobs...
Long desks are cool and all, but the amount the space they occupy is not worth it.
Block work related phone calls at weekends, being disturbed at your leisure for things that could be resolved on Mondays will sour your day.

Buying stuff:

There is expensive because of brand and expensive because of material quality, do your research.
Buck buying is underrated, save yourself a few bucks, pile that toilet paper until the ceiling is you must.
Second hand/broken often means never cleaned, lubricated or with easy fixable problem.

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[–] [email protected] 37 points 7 months ago (2 children)

"don't attribute to malice what can be explained by stupidity" is good advice for friends and family.

It's bad advice for salesmen, politicians, corporations, etc. They are more sophisticated than you and will take advantage of your willingness to extend trust after bad behavior.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

I've been in a surprising number of hostile situations professionally that defied any explanation that did not include both malice and stupidity :D

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (3 children)

It's bad advice for salesmen, politicians, corporations, etc.

I dunno. It's pretty easy to attribute their misdeeds to malice.

Or at least to greed and malicious indifference to your concerns.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 7 months ago

I think that's what they were saying. For those, it is likely indeed malice. For friends and family, it's likely just stupidity or ignorance.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Doing bad things ("evildoing" if we want to express it in a morally absolutist way) is generally not for the pleasure of it, but it's simply doing what's good for oneself with little or no limits (if one can get away with it) on how bad the consequences for others are of one's personal upside maximization actions.

Whilst "malice" is per the dictionary a specific kind of doing bad things were one actually wants to harm or hurt others, hence that saying with that word specifically can't be easilly turned around (especially as actual malice is pretty rare), if you use "calous selfishness" instead the reverse saying ("don't attribute to stupidity what can be explained by calous selfishness") is often true, especially when it comes to people intelligent enough to be able to figure out the broader consequences of their actions.