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[serious] What are your most important boundaries you've learned to enforce? (lemmy.world)

submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Nobody tells me what I'm going to do or where I will be going and when that happens

I am open to invitations or requests or suggestions where my involvement is desired or ostensibly necesary for somone else. But I will never respond to this as a statement of fact or in the form of a threat

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

I just mean when you have an intense relationship (that could be workable) with family or someone else who's used to getting what they want selfishly and no questions asked, they may try carrots or they may try to spook you into complying out of fear and codependance or whatever.

Great example is when Bea Arthur shouted at Joe Swanson that he was was never gonna make it, why doesn't he just give up now, and then a fool as he rolled away