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[–] [email protected] -5 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (2 children)

Ignoring emotions is very unhealthy. I understand that it is seen as desirable in a business context, but it is very unhealthy and detrimental in the long run.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I wouldn't necessarily call it ignoring, if you just... don't explode on someone in a "professional" letter, if we can call it that.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I agree! Making someone aware of your feelings doesn't mean exploding. You can just tell them. "I am very sad, frustrated and angry due to your actions. Please don't do this again." Is very clear and hurts no one.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 9 months ago

I apologize - it wasn't my intention to imply that at all! Emotional self management is a critical skill for managers - and that shouldn't mean "go away, emotions!". A trainer and coach I highly respect phrased it simply: "emotions are. They exist if we like them or not.".

What I intended to convey was "do not use a public platform to channel your emotions."

If this would've been a private conversation I would integrate an explanation of my current situation, feelings and context for my reaction. And also this sounds abstract it can totally be a "dude I'm absolutely pissed. I need you to work with me through this." (this works btw in both meanings of "pissed" ;)).