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I knew a guy in university who absolutely reeked. He was a really nice person and I befriended him in a casual way (like sit together in a lecture, chat in the hall). It was clearly a medical thing but people ostracized him and talked behind his back about how he must never shower. I felt really bad for him.
It's a legitimate disability, and certainly I don't envy anyone with this issue. We've all been taught that people who have maybe acne or body odor or sweating issues or dandruff or whatever else are just people with "poor hygiene", but the reality is that products and buildings are made to meet the needs of the most 'average' person (usually defined by a company selling something), and there is so much variation in how bodies function. When you're trying to make a product that maximises usage and sales, it's ironically easy to exclude a lot of people.
Thanks for being kind to that person, I'm glad you were able to see (and smell) past it.
For anyone else who does experience limitations because of their body odor, check out the Job Accessibility Network's list of possible accomodations for this symptom of your disability. Because medical issues that cause you to be ostracised and limit your ability to function in society are a disability and you deserve an equal opportunity to thrive.
Preach. For a long time I was given shit for dandruff. No matter how clean my hair was, I'd always have dandruff. Wasn't until I decided to let my hair grow out to donate it, and thus learnt about how to take care of it properly, that it was the shampoo and conditioner I was using that caused it in the first place.
Now it's clean and healthy, with no dandruff. Bodies are hella weird.