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[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

I didn't say "all porn bad." I in fact urged moderation.

i hope i got my point across

Since you had such an ungenerous interpretation of what I said, it's fair game for me to say that claiming "it's (porn in this case) not going to affect the life of the person viewing it unless said person lets it" is naively idealistic and does nothing to actually help anyone that might need help after getting stuck in a rut from excessive hedonic treadmill running, be it from porn or anything else.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

So we're basically saying the same thing about the subject then. Wonderful. Dunno how you got me saying "It's not going to affect the life of the person viewing it unless said person lets it" to mean "it applies to people who damned themselves down this road willing and people who has an actual problem with it" in the context of OP's question

Now, "Ungenerous interpretation of what [you] said" where, exactly?

You asked "does it include compulsive gamblers?"

And I answered No, because I answered the OP's question from a general perspective--not asking as someone who already has a compulsive urge to masturbate/drink/gamble/whathaveyou. The first one can be affected either positively or negatively by something, if they let the habit control them vs the other way around, while the other's already affected in a negative way, so i didn't bother bringing them up. (Not even touching on the fact that it should be obvious, or well, at least it is to me, you CANNOT advise or help an addict in the same way you're going to advise a person whose curious/a bit green on something they wanna try)

Wait, was it in my anecdote about me deing a drunk? If that's the case, then there was a failure to communicate on my part and I apologize. I didn't mean to imply that you said "all porn bad", i said it to point out how distiling something that to a basic category like "all alcohol is bad" without the nuance of "it's less the thing and more the different people interacting with the thing" to be....well, bad, and reductive because context matters.

[โ€“] [email protected] -2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Wonderful.

I didn't think anything good would be likely to come after so much smuglord that early in your reply.

I kept reading.

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