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[–] [email protected] 62 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I wouldn't say nobody, but I would say the people that dominate the area I'm trying to volunteer and work in.

I work in a healing center where there are 29 women on staff and 1 man.

I cannot get these people to understand that as much as they want to push forward social movements, which I very much agree with, this must not come at the expense of men who are trying to heal.

I will literally have counselors co-facilitating with me, who want to make every point about how women are oppressed, pushed down in the workforce, face issues.

I'm not in denial of those, but no man coming into a healing environment to work on themselves, be vulnerable, and explore their own journey, needs to hear how much men are shitty.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There are many jobs that I don't bother to apply for despite knowing I'd excel and enjoy it, simply because I'm male. Many people aren't comfortable with males in certain roles. Obviously the reverse is true and disproportionate but most people seem to be oblivious that men are oppressed too.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

That's an excellent point and it's one of these elephants in the room that people can't see.

Does anybody wonder why there's virtually no male kindergarten teachers? Convicted before the crime as if women have never acted inappropriately towards children?! I mean for fuck sakes my own mother sexually abused me.

If you've ever known any male nurses, they will tell you the stories of being outnumbered 30 to 1 at minimum, and then facing constant sexual harassment, abuse, and career suppression because of their gender.

And my own story, I work in a system of power, the healing sector, which is dominated by women. And as the one guy they're trying to do the right thing and serve men, we face nothing but abuse. It is driving me out.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Exactly. You can see this on various aspects of life. Racism, sexism, etc. Many use them as excuse to throw out the baby with the bath water.