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I mean, probably dont want to hear this but if all of your hobbies are complete sausage fests but you want to meet women organically you should try out some hobbies that women are more likely to do. Dancing classes, cooking classes, improv comedy groups, yoga, certain adult sports leagues etc. Once you have a few women friends it becomes much easier to meet more and most women would love to set up their friemds if they think you're cool.
I mean that's fair. But I don't enjoy any of those things. Joining a woman dominated group that I don't actually want to be in just so I can talk to the women there just feels like it would make me a bit of a creep.
It probably didn't come across in my first message but I'm fine continuing to do my thing and just not date anyone. I was just pointing out that the advice "just go meet people" isn't really helpful.
Do you dislike doing them, or do you not know and just think you wont like them? I'm asking because I've been in the latter experience more times than I can count and ended up liking what I was doing. If you can find something that doesn't sound awful and you're willing to put in a bit of effort into learning/meshing with the activity, you won't come off like a creep who's only there to meet women.
You never know what you're going to like.
Plus someone has to do it, and they want to find someone just as much as you do.